Parents often use their neighbors' children as an example for their children. Some are able to leave the house for a walk in a light dress and not take it out in the mud, others study well at school, others selflessly play the piano, others win Olympiads. For some reason, the comparison usually comes out not in favor of your own child. Many adults maintain the habit of comparing themselves to others and constantly playing them out.
Instructions
Step 1
When you start comparing yourself to someone, remember that at this time you are not hearing your own inner voice, but the voice of your mother or father. It is they, even being far from you, continue to say that the neighbor's boy studied better at the university and therefore was able to earn a lot of money, and the neighbor's girl was not lazy to go to dances, and now posters with her are pasted all over the city. But now you are an adult and do not consider your parents to be indisputable authorities. As you start comparing yourself to others, think about whether you would really like to live their life, or if you just continue to scold yourself out of a habit left over from childhood.
Step 2
Love yourself and devote more time to your life than watching someone else's. Plan your travels, upgrade your skills, meet and build relationships. Do what is of value to you, and you will soon find that telling stories about someone else's good life does not make you want to start belittling yourself.
Step 3
People are not perfect, and the people you admire are no exception. If you talk to them, you will surely find out the reverse sides of their success: someone left a promising position for the sake of raising children, someone has an excellent figure, but complete silence in their personal life, while others only dream of having at least a day of rest from your dream job and sleep well. Remember that you are not comparing yourself with a real person, but with your perception of this person, and it may differ from reality.
Step 4
Critically approach information about someone's success. If you go to the pages of your friends on a social network and see exceptionally beautiful photos - vacations in exotic countries, dinners in restaurants, international conferences - remember that this is only a part of their life and you do not know what remains behind the scenes. If you wish, you can also create a positive image of yourself on the Internet by filming some moments from a good angle.
Step 5
Get yourself a notebook and write down your achievements in it. Have you compared yourself to someone else and the comparison didn't work out in your favor? Take a look in your notebook for arguments that will help you win the argument.
Step 6
Compare yourself not with others, but with yourself. Remember yourself a few years ago and note how much more interesting and comfortable your life has become, how many goals you have set for yourself you were able to achieve, how close you are to your dream. This activity, as opposed to self-deprecation at the sight of others' success, will help you feel proud of yourself and become even better.
