Envy is a rather heavy feeling, its presence is difficult to hide. The reasons for its occurrence most often lie in dissatisfaction with oneself and attempts to compare oneself with others. It often leads to depression and jealousy. Getting rid of envy is hard enough.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, stop comparing your life to the lives of others. Envy often arises from a feeling of inferiority, when the success of others, the presence of these or those material benefits makes a person want the same, condemn himself and consider his position as the worst in relation to the situation of other people. A typical example is envy of colleagues at work who are moving up the career ladder faster than others. If you have these feelings, try to let them go, think only about your business, and keep working.
Step 2
Formulate the criteria for success for yourself and try to meet only them. It is wrong to look for them on the side. Success is assessed by each person in their own way. Some consider it a success to have a large house and a luxury car, while others believe that having a family and an interesting job is enough for them. Do not try to meet any standards, you must answer this question yourself. Do not think that having certain things or holding certain positions makes them more meaningful. Everyone has their own success story, it is no more and no less significant than your own.
Step 3
Try replacing jealousy with action that will help you achieve what you want. This will help distract you from feeling jealous. For example, if you are jealous of a certain brand of car a person has, try to start saving money for the same one. If you like someone's appearance and you look at her with envy, start changing yourself, work on your own appearance.
Step 4
Envy, as a rule, makes people see only positive sides in a person. It must be admitted that perfection does not exist. There are always flaws that can be carefully hidden from others. In addition, you may not know the whole story of how the person came to what you are now jealous of. Remember that the object of your envy is just the side of a person visible to you, behind which your problems, weaknesses and shortcomings are hidden.
Step 5
Determine your options and do not try to change what you do not control. To be jealous of successes that you cannot achieve is useless. Obsession with getting things impossible for you can negatively affect your psyche and lead, for example, to depression.
Step 6
Try to limit contact with the subject of your envy for a while, perhaps this will help you cope with your feelings. For example, if you are jealous of your friends looking at the photos they post on social media, try stopping using them for a few weeks. Get distracted and do something else.
