In a relationship between a man and a woman, not always everything goes smoothly. And if at first there are rose-colored glasses in front of our eyes, and everything appears in a rainbow light, then after several months of meetings, not very pleasant feelings begin to creep out into the light. Sometimes there is jealousy of the phenomena that took place in the distant past of the partner. Most often, these feelings are baseless, but stem from self-doubt. But it happens that jealousy of the past does not arise out of nowhere. How to stop being jealous of the past?
Instructions
Step 1
To begin with, it is worth deciding where the sources of mistrust in a loved one are. When did you first feel jealousy? What contributed to this? Perhaps you have often been deceived throughout your life, and now you doubt everyone and everything. Or you lack confidence in yourself. However, it also happens that jealousy of the past has a foundation. Just decide to start.
Step 2
It is foolish to be jealous if your loved one communicates with a partner with whom he was married and from whom he has common children. These people may indeed have questions related to the education, upbringing, maintenance of a son or daughter. It makes no sense to be jealous of these meetings. Moreover, you can always be present at these dates. Loving people cannot have secrets, and your significant other is unlikely to deny you this. In addition, it is always easier to solve emerging issues and problems together.
Step 3
If your loved one is still in contact with a former partner with whom he was not tied by marriage, there is reason to think. Is your past relationship really finished? After all, if people disperse, it means that they are not interested in together, past love and passion have passed. So what makes them look for meetings over and over again? Most likely, on one side or the other, there are feelings that do not allow you to finally end the former relationship. And it is not known what these meetings will lead to. Chances are good that you will be the third odd person. If such a situation arises in your relationship, you need to immediately resolve this issue. It's not worth pulling, it will be even more painful further. Ask your loved one to tell you what still connects him with his ex, why they are dating. Explain that this communication is unpleasant for you, that you are worried about the existing relationship. If the person agrees with your reasons and stops any contact with their ex, then everything is in order, he really loves you. And if instead he begins to cheat, play around, but still return to the past by any means, most likely, he is not yet ready for a new relationship. What to do in this case is up to you. You can close your eyes to what is happening and pretend that everything is in order. Or stop contact and start looking for someone who will appreciate and respect you.
Step 4
You should not be jealous of the past if this past only manifests itself in calls with congratulations on your birthday or New Year. This is elementary politeness and there is nothing wrong with that. Instead, get busy developing your current relationship. Diversify dates, communicate more, learn new things together. Travel, love each other, have children. Perfect your union. Then a happy future awaits you, in which there is no place for a dusty past.
