Despite the development of modern technologies, people still remain captive to their ancient, not always pleasant feelings and emotions. Among them is jealousy.
Definition of jealousy
Jealousy is a negatively colored feeling that mainly arises in a person at moments when he feels a lack of attention, love, respect or sympathy, one might even say, his uselessness on the part of his beloved person. A chronic tendency towards jealousy is called jealousy. Some consider jealousy even a disease.
Usually they are jealous of a loved one. At such moments, when, for example, a beloved girl is in a company with friends, the imagination of her beloved begins to paint the most unpleasant pictures of what may be happening to her now, right up to physical betrayal.
Of course, it is simply unbearable to endure this. Jealousy can even cause harmless flirting in front of a young man.
Jealousy is both healthy and unhealthy. Healthy jealousy is justified by the desire to protect what belongs to a person, as he believes, by right. Moderate jealousy is perfectly acceptable and acceptable in modern society.
From unhealthy jealousy, a person loses not only peace and poise, but can completely become inadequate and even commit murder.
Usually a guy is jealous of his girlfriend based on previous experiences of a failed relationship. He constantly thinks that when he is not around, his girlfriend will definitely pay attention to another young man. Such thoughts are simply unbearable and in most cases lead to scandals and rupture of relations.
Lack of basic trust is the main cause of jealousy.
We fight jealousy
On the Internet, and in various literature, there are many tips on how to deal with jealousy and stop being jealous of your girlfriend for her friends. All advice boils down to the fact that you need to trust her more, get carried away with what she is fond of, make friends with her friends, in a word, become her shadow, and everywhere relentlessly follow her.
Giving advice is much easier than following it. But what if the hobbies of your girlfriend and her friends are not interesting to you? Anyway, you don't want to meet her friends? Do you have your own friends and hobbies?
If such a situation arises, it is better to sit down and discuss the current situation together. Usually jealousy arises for a girl in the case when a young man sought her attention for a long time, while the girl could not decide whether to accept his courtship or not.
In this case, even when meeting a young man's girl, there will always be doubts about how much she loves him and how faithful she is to him, if the girl already had a serious relationship before him and she was in love.
To overshadow your first love is very, very difficult. For any girl, the first love for life remains the brightest and most important, even when she is already married and has given birth to a child.
It's easier when a girl herself chooses a candidate for potential husbands. In this case, there is no great need to be jealous of her friends.
The girl herself will always return to her chosen one and, perhaps, will completely stop meeting with her friends and focus all her attention on her boyfriend.
It is difficult not to be jealous, but if you love a girl, you need to be patient and wait for the moment when she will not need anyone except you. How much to wait?
It depends on your actions and how convincing you will be in your desire to prove to her that she is your most beloved and only one.
Jealousy is a dark, ancient feeling that spoils our lives and must be fought against. But this must be done correctly.
