Contradictions in the outside world are not enjoyable, but tolerable. It is worse when the contradictions seem to come from within and cause a constant stream of reflections that do not end with conclusions about possible ways to solve the problem that torments. What to do when you get confused in yourself and can't figure it out?
Instructions
Step 1
First, look for conflicting attitudes that have come into conflict. Often, an internal conflict arises due to externally set attitudes that contradict the needs of a person. Most often, two external directions are in conflict, which the psyche perceives as its own. For example, a girl wants to have a slender figure and at the same time be able to cook very tasty. The first requires a half-starved existence, the second - a great culinary practice with tasting. The goal, it seems, is one - to become a good wife, that is, attractive in appearance and able to pave the way to a man's heart through his stomach.
Step 2
However, these attitudes conflict, and the girl in question rushes to extremes. Then even bulimia may occur, which is very harmful to physical and mental health. The problem is that attitudes are perceived to be equally important. Prioritize wisely and decide how important these components are to achieving your goal. In this case, it is better to acquire culinary knowledge and skills, because a slender body can be formed in a few months (if the situation is not critical). But the ability to cook deliciously and variedly is acquired over the years and is valued more at the stage of a long-term relationship than a slender figure. In general, each problem must be considered in each situation in a special way - if a girl plans to marry a millionaire, then external data will matter more.
Step 3
Secondly, often behind one problem a carefully hidden other is hidden, and the contradiction is just a screen so that a person does not get to the bottom of the real problem, because its awareness is very painful. For example, in a girl who wants to marry a rich man and thinks about her figure and cooking, there is a deep lack of confidence in herself as a professional, in her abilities. And reflections on the figure cover up the fact that she does not believe in herself and does not know how to work yet.
Step 4
Therefore, honestly answer yourself to the questions - what exactly do you want to get, what beliefs you start from when thinking about the problem, and how correct your concepts are (you need to look for information not in yourself, but in books, newspapers, the Internet). So it will be possible to find conflicting attitudes and arrange them in order of importance for the identified main goal. And at the same time think about how much you need to achieve the goal. Perhaps many views will have to be revised. But this will eliminate the contradictions.
