Humiliation can be very stressful, especially if it is completely undeserved, committed in public, or repeated on a regular basis. There are cases when people were driven to suicide. What can you do to protect yourself from insults and derogatory words and actions?
Instructions
Step 1
Humiliation at work is very common. Typically, bosses indulge in offensive attacks and often do so in front of other employees. Often, at the suggestion of their superiors, other colleagues are also involved in humiliation, arranging harassment or, as it is now customary to call this phenomenon, mobbing.
Step 2
If you are not a unique specialist, then the only thing that can be done to save your face and nerves is to quit. If you have been humiliated once, they will continue to do this further, taking advantage of your subordinate or weak position. It is better not to wait another time and apply for resignation.
Step 3
If you are ready to go to confrontation, then get ready for the fact that the fight will be difficult. And, most likely, you will lose this job anyway. So is it worth spending time and nerves to prove something to someone who is so weak and insecure that he is forced to prove his worth by humiliation?
Step 4
If you have been humiliated by a stranger or unfamiliar person, then the best thing is not to answer, to ignore the one who is trying to hurt you. Most likely, in front of you is an energy vampire who feeds on other people's fear and experiences. Do not give him food, act as if he is simply not there. It is clear that everything is boiling inside you, and you want to answer the offender, but you shouldn't. After all, this is exactly what he expects from you - a reaction to his manipulation. Don't play his game - just don't notice. Tell yourself that he is not. You can visualize him with an overturned garbage can on his head. Can you communicate with a person who has garbage on his head? No. So don't talk!
Step 5
It is much more difficult if a close person humiliates you, from whom you cannot just leave and turn away - husband, brother, mother, child. Try to figure out - why and why do they do it? Maybe their attempt to humiliate you - their desperate cry for help? Are they dissatisfied with their lives and take their failure out on you?
Step 6
Try to talk to them calmly, not immediately after humiliation, later, in a calm phase. Try to understand what is eating them, why did they find it possible to offend you? Sometimes talking calmly helps. Sometimes not. It is best to go to a psychologist to get expert advice.
Step 7
In some cases, it is possible to correct the relationship, and possibly yourself. But it happens that the situation does not improve, and then you have to make a choice. In the case of a husband, divorce is often the solution, unfortunately. Since often, after humiliation, the husband turns to assault, then patience and confrontation can be dangerous. It is much more difficult with parents, but even with them it is mono to limit your communication.
Step 8
In any situation, you will have to decide what is more important to you - to maintain your dignity and fight back or endure in order to preserve.
