Black stripes happen in the life of any person. Of course, any of them ends sooner or later, but there is a good way to make the "black" period short and painless.
It is necessary
- - writing paper, pen;
- - either Word or another text editor.
Instructions
Step 1
Awareness
The first step is to understand that your feelings are subjective and have little to do with objective reality. Your black bar is black only for you - due to the peculiarities of your perception and assessment of certain circumstances, your life experience, expectations. The qualities of your personality also play an important role - character traits, temperament, thinking, and so on.
Literally: the Earth did not fall into a "black hole" from the fact that you were dumped by a girl or "cut" at work. And all these events are not universal catastrophes, even if they happened simultaneously. Rename your problem to a problem and start solving it.
Step 2
Analysis
Grab a pen, paper, or open a text editor and analyze the reasons that triggered your current condition. Write down literally everything that comes to your mind about this: “I am lacking this…. I lost this or could not do this … I was rejected by someone …. I am overwhelmed with things that have no end in sight….”.
This will not solve the situation, but it will help you to look at it more soberly by removing the emotional charge that turns even ordinary life circumstances into something apocalyptic. You should also take responsibility for what is happening, fully realize and accept it - without dramatization and maxims. Only you are responsible for what is happening to you and only you are able to resolve the situation.
Step 3
Overcoming
So, before you remove the black bar, organize your emotions. Then develop a step-by-step plan to overcome the difficulties that have arisen (find a new job, etc.) and begin to implement it. Think less about your troubles and misfortunes (thoughts are material!), And it is better to invest excess energy in something more constructive.
Step 4
Graft
The main reason for the onset of a black streak in life is the inconsistency of current circumstances with your expectations. This means that the most competent prevention of negative experiences is the rejection of inflated expectations about something and, most importantly, someone.
