Adults sometimes do not even realize that the roots of their internal conflicts are laid in deep childhood. Sometimes an attempt to understand the causes of children's troubles helps to eliminate many mental problems, even at an advanced age.
Instructions
Step 1
Perhaps someone can say about their childhood that it was a completely cloudless time, but there are not so many people like that. Peer ridicule, deception, injustice and disappointment, parental divorce, loss of a loved one - this is a long list of trials that life presents even at an immature age. Childhood traumas do not always remain in a person's memory. For decades, not remembering the grievance or grief that he once suffered, he does not even suspect how much this emotional experience affected the personality and character, and how deeply it is stored in his subconscious. It is not easy to free oneself from the burden of the past, it is only available to those who are ready to change, openly and honestly understand the causes and consequences of mental wounds received in childhood.
Step 2
Only one person can help oneself in a situation where the events of a difficult childhood continue to influence behavior in adult life. To do this, it is necessary to recall the event in as much detail as possible, analyze the reasons that led to it, and understand why this particular trauma is so firmly rooted in the subconscious. Most likely, the problem, considered from the point of view of a mature and experienced person, will turn out to be insignificant, and a heavy burden will be removed from the soul. An unhealed wound from an insult inflicted in childhood can heal if you sincerely forgive the offender from the heart. Lack of parental love can be overcome by giving more affection to your own children. On closer examination, injustice may turn out to be one's own selfishness, and peer ridicule may turn out to be ordinary stupidity.
Step 3
Sometimes even such trifles as a refusal to buy a new toy or a trip to the circus remain in the subconscious an unforgiven insult. Psychologists recommend at any age to allow yourself what was denied in childhood. The purchase of a clockwork car or a doll for yourself, and not for children, will make you laugh and cheer up, and the child's resentment will disappear by itself. It is this kind of work with your own subconscious that will help you free yourself from complexes, overcome self-doubt and more openly perceive reality. The psychological trauma of childhood will cease to dominate and distort the line of behavior.
Step 4
There are special trainings and courses conducted by specialists where you can get help and get rid of childhood traumas and fears. If working on yourself does not help to improve your well-being, you should not postpone a visit to professionals who will be able to competently work out the situation and provide effective assistance.
