Walk with a psychologist through 7 steps - seven of the most common emotional and psychological reasons for being overweight.
At every step, a new reason for extra pounds will be waiting for you, a picture explaining its essence, and an example to make it easier to understand and understand examples from your own life.
Choose from one to three psychological reasons for your overweight and ask the author of the article in the comments or on the forum. He will definitely help you in working on yourself and eliminating these emotional keys to the door behind which your harmony is hidden.
It is necessary
- - half an hour of free time
- - self-confidence
- - burning desire to get slimmer
- - a psychologist who is ready to come to the rescue
Instructions
Step 1
Punishing yourself.
Whenever we do any action that we ourselves define as "bad" or "unworthy," we subconsciously begin to treat ourselves like an angry parent.
We punish ourselves, we scold and get angry with ourselves, sometimes we even hate ourselves for it. This creates tension and guilt. When we are afraid and stressed, we tend to repeat this wrong and ineffective behavior. This creates a circle of punishing oneself.
So, the first psychological reason for being overweight is masochism or self-punishment. For example, we "break down" and again eat up for the night, subconsciously we understand that we have committed a "bad action". we get angry with ourselves, strain and again begin to experience "brutal hunger" or thirst.
To establish in yourself the presence of psychological "punishment of yourself", answer yourself the questions: "For what eating habits were I punished in childhood? Why do I continue to scold and punish myself now? For what actions around food am I angry with myself?"
Step 2
Ulterior motive.
A very common psychological cause of any problem, not just overweight. Each action, each of our actions, as a rule, is based on a hidden goal or motive. We don't just do anything.
An ulterior motive, as an emotional cause of excess weight, is often not recognized by us. For example, we put on extra pounds to hide self-doubt or to become more weighty and fuller. This means that you feel significant and successful.
To realize the "hidden motives" of excess weight in yourself, answer the questions in the comments: "What gives me my excess weight, my obesity? What psychological benefits do I get with the new kilograms?"
Step 3
A role model.
Literally from birth, we learn by copying the actions and appearance of significant figures that surround us. We make pies as well as our grandmother did. We joke and shake our bangs, almost the same as our dad joked and shook his forelock.
We copy not only behavior, often the food habits of our idols and the appearance of significant people are the objects for imitation. For example, we saw how our older sister "seized up grievances". Or we subconsciously strive to be like our fat mom in everything. This is how the image of our "I" is gradually formed.
Realize who you have chosen as a role model. Answer yourself to the questions: "Whose eating habits do I subconsciously copy? Who do I look like outwardly? What kind of person did I dream of becoming when I grow up?"
Step 4
Fingerprints of the past.
Many of the incentives for our not-so-healthy behavior are literally imprinted in our memory in childhood and are prescribed to us over and over again.
Most of the prints from the past are verbal. They could point out our awkward gait and call us a "slow cow". Or tell someone about us "he eats like a pig". We could slip a piece of cake every time we felt bad, with the words: "Eat baby and you will feel better right away."
You can immediately realize the "imprints of the past" about your appearance, as soon as you remember what words you were called in childhood? What eating behavior was prescribed?
Step 5
Language of the body.
We all know very well that a word can heal, or you can kill or make you experience unpleasant feelings. Our body obeys the language of subconscious suggestions, which often look like humor or poking fun at ourselves.
Body language, which manifests itself as a psychological cause of excess weight, often expresses the idea that "there should be a lot of good people," and now we see in front of us a kind of good-natured fat man who can hardly move around the house.
Realize what language you speak with your body, what verbal suggestions you make to it, what words do you prescribe to be fat?
Step 6
Conflict.
Any psychological problem, as a rule, corresponds to an internal conflict between "I want" and "I must not", between "I do not want" and "I must". Overweight is often caused by such a conflict.
Imagine a person who has desires and inhibitions of equal strength. Remember from the physics course, 2 vectors with one force move in opposite directions, adding up to zero force. So a full person, wants to lose weight and limits himself to food, at the same time passionately wants to eat another piece of cake. As a result, he is exhausted and disappointed in himself, when, having lost a couple of extra pounds, he gains them again.
Become aware of your inner conflict. Who and with whom conflicts within you? Between what desires and what prohibitions do you rush about?
Step 7
Psychic trauma.
When we are traumatized emotionally or psychologically, we carry this pain and this tension with us for many years. We may have been traumatized in childhood, adolescence or adolescence, or we may have experienced severe stress at work, witnessed or even involved in a car accident.
For example, as a child, you may have seen quarrels between your parents. You wanted to protect your mom or dad and decided that you need to be big and strong in order to be able to stand up for yourself. Or, if you are "eaten at work" by envious colleagues, you may subconsciously begin to grow in size, because it is not easy to eat a large person right away.
Remember, what traumatic situations, catastrophes or stressful events have you participated in in the distant or recent past? How do these traumas affect your excess weight?
