People often miss opportunities to become richer, more successful, to find new friends and accomplices just because they are afraid to speak. They are afraid to look funny, they are afraid that they are doing something wrong, they are afraid to be themselves. Fear of criticism, ridicule and guilt make people insecure. Closing in their little world, they rarely communicate with others and experience a huge sense of discomfort when speaking in front of an audience. How to overcome self-doubt and find peace of mind?
Instructions
Step 1
Step one is to think less about your fears and disappointments. It is necessary to forget once and for all the phrase “I will not succeed”, to drive away negative thoughts that you are unlucky, ugly and not successful. Instead, you should think about what kind of person you would like to become, what success to achieve and how to accomplish it all.
Step 2
Find good qualities in yourself. Surely you have some hobbies or talents that you can develop and draw attention to yourself. If you know how to knit, draw, burn or something else, create an Internet blog and upload photos of your creations there. Undoubtedly, there are many like-minded people who will appreciate your work and sincerely praise it. And you can learn something new from them, and expand your social circle.
Step 3
Don't be afraid of people. Maybe they are also insecure in their souls, but they try to restrain emotions and fight it. If you have an “idol” among others whom you would like to be like, think about why the person became like that and how to achieve it. Just avoid completely copying the behavior and image - it looks ridiculous.
Step 4
Do what you've always wanted to do. Wanted to sing, but doubted about hearing and voice - sign up for vocal lessons. If you dreamed of dancing in the light of spotlights - go to at least one dance lesson. Introduce yourself on a ship - reward yourself with a cruise trip. And maybe you will turn out to be an excellent traveler with a beautiful voice and will be able to dance a waltz on board the ship.
Step 5
Rehearse any public appearance in front of the mirror, thinking about what you will say and how you will behave. Presentation at the seminar? - You have already learned it at home and are not at all afraid of questions from the audience. Report to management? - You did everything right and gave all the arguments in an even confident voice. Meeting with a loved one? - You are ready for this too! Hands do not shake and words do not get confused.
Step 6
Ignore other people's taunts or sarcastic remarks. This is an indicator of weakness, so you shouldn't dwell on it. On the contrary, walk by, proudly straightening your back and smiling.
Step 7
Do not drown your sorrows and complexes in alcohol under sad melancholy songs. Instead, watch funny and kind movies and comedies more often. After all, if a person is in a good mood, he is open to communication, positive and attracts others.
