Sometimes it turns out that if you don't show your character in time, the people around you will simply pull him apart. Many people have no problems with this: they barked on time, stamped their feet - it's business. However, such people are a minority, many have to learn to show character, and so that it does not come to a fight.
Instructions
Step 1
Develop a healthy indifference. Remember that not all troubles are as bad as they seem. If you put a person in his place once, and he decides to take offense at you for it, do not think that this is irreparable, and that you will never be able to be friends again. If you are united by real friendship, and not just some ephemeral benefit from mutual communication, then the person will want to make peace with you the very next day (if not earlier). In addition, you yourself may well take a step forward: after all, this is not an insult and not a quarrel, by and large. You just showed the arrogant person his place. This is a completely normal situation.
Step 2
However, be careful not to get into a real fight. You need to be able to put a person in his place so that he feels that you are fair, and that he is actually to blame. Never be rude, do not let go. Be extremely polite and calm. After all, you seek to show character, not lack of it. Violence, rudeness, rudeness - these are all signs of not only a lack of character, but also the absence of a concept of elementary norms of behavior. First, cultivate this very character in yourself, and then show it.
Step 3
Do not ask for trouble if you see that the truth is on the wrong side. There is no need to show your strength of character if you see that it will be empty incitement to conflict. If it often happens that you want to receive something from your environment, something that you do not have, and you are ready to show your teeth in order to achieve a goal, this has nothing to do with a manifestation of character. It's just anger, envy and stupidity. Avoid these situations and thoughts.
Step 4
Show character only with those who can be influenced. If, for example, you decide to climb with your character to the authorities, then you should not hope for any positive outcome for you. With subordinates - another matter. However, here, too, one must act with caution, proceeding from the standpoint of goodness and mutual benefit. After all, if your subordinates see that you are showing character only in order to "show off" and drink their blood, then they are unlikely to obey. But if you manage to show them that you are doing everything for the good of the enterprise, and when you demonstrate character, you just need to establish discipline and put everyone in working order, then they will willingly meet you halfway.
Step 5
That is, you need to show your character only in the hope of improving the situation and only with those who will obey you. It is often necessary to show character, and this also applies to the family. Children should feel that their parents are higher and more powerful than them, in many things they should obey you. However, show your character with love, because these are still your children, there is no need to make enemies of them. Friends are another matter. Everyone is equal here. And if you show character today, there is no guarantee that someone will not show their character tomorrow.
