Recently, more and more women are complaining about difficulties in relationships. Either the "wrong" men come across, then the husband suddenly starts to walk, and some do not even try to hide it. In 80% women are to blame. And the first thing to do to change the situation is to finally accept responsibility for your life, and also not to allow at least basic female mistakes in relationships.
For starters, stop looking for relationships for status. If you feel flawed outside of a relationship, then you first need to work on yourself and your self-esteem. A happy and confident woman will attract a potentially similar candidate. If you hold on to an alcoholic, a parasite, so as not to be alone, then you have big problems and they will not go away on their own. With such thoughts, you will not be able to meet a worthy man.
There are two categories of women: one says that she is single, the other says that I am free. Do you feel the difference? Loneliness is a state of mind and the biggest mistake women make is trying to fill it with relationships. Relationships are full-fledged harmony based on respect for each other, and not grabbing because of the fear of loneliness. Men subconsciously feel it and alas, such a relationship ends in rupture. A free woman does not wait until she is chosen, she chooses herself. And the lonely one grabs the first one on her way.
Depressing thoughts about my age like “What can I expect at 30, 40, 50, etc.”. If you feel like junk, then men will treat you that way. Then do not be surprised that a man ceases to respect you and makes you understand that no one else would take you except him.
Many women sincerely consider sex to be the measure of relationships, they say, as soon as I refuse him, he will immediately go to another. Here again, it's a matter of self-respect. Sex is an important step in a relationship and it is not a way to keep a man or tie him to himself. This is a manifestation of closeness, harmony and serious relationship. You shouldn't settle for sex if you are not confident in the relationship or do not feel ready. Otherwise, bitterness and resentment will remain.
Civil marriage is a sensational and very painful topic. Have you ever wondered why 80% of civil marriages do not go into official ones? It's one thing if both of you are comfortable initially. Then the question is removed. But if you want an official relationship and everything connected with it, then think about whether "getting to know each other better" is too delayed. And when two years later you raise the topic, he replies in surprise, why do we need to sign? All the same, and so good. There is a popular saying, "why buy a cow when milk is free." The man already has a woman who looks after him, does everything and also has a trick, I am not married. It is beneficial for men. Negotiate the terms of your civil marriage before starting it, if you go for it.
Don't try to re-educate a mature man. This is a common mistake of many women who associate themselves with a mama's son, a parasite, etc., with the confidence that it is you and only you who will be able to re-educate and educate him.
The birth of a child is an important step and you should take it first of all, and not because he wanted to, it's time, mom asks when. Remember that most of the responsibility lies with you, your body. First of all, evaluate your willingness to become a mother morally and your material resources, in case you fail with a man.
Do not live in illusions like beats means loves. Or he hits, but in principle, not bad. In such cases, the phrase "I love him" sounds like sadomasochism. Do not expect that one fine moment he will change and everything will be fine. This is your life and your choice, if you allow to be humiliated, you accept this choice and you live like this until you understand that it is time to change something in your life.
