An ardent relationship, passion, an interested look - all this characterizes the beginning of love. But a certain time passes, and the feelings cool down. Love is gone, is there only a habit left? Or are the feelings still burning in your heart? Answers to three questions will help you distinguish real feelings from habit.
It is necessary
partner photos, sheet of paper, pen, memories
Instructions
Step 1
Think, would you get to know and communicate with your partner, if from the very beginning you knew him as well as now, would you want to build a long relationship with him? A negative answer indicates that you are only bound by habit, not love and respect. While you have the opportunity, sever this relationship. Otherwise, you will ruin each other's lives.
Step 2
Ask yourself the question: why do you love your partner. If you love him just like that, because he is like that, then perhaps you are connected by real feelings, because before he attracted you with something specific. Think about the beginning of your relationship. Perhaps your partner struck you with his loving look, reverent attitude and manner of communication.
If at the present time these qualities no longer admire you, and you see in your chosen one only shortcomings that annoy you, it means that you are bound only by habit, and love is gone. You are used to living the way you live, and you are afraid to change anything.
Step 3
Try to determine if stereotypes are affecting your relationship. Your relationship no longer gives you joy, there are much more unsolvable problems. But everyone around you already knows about your future wedding. Parents and friends like the bride or groom. Yes, and you have been together for so long that it is embarrassing to break off relations and it is a pity for the spent years?
In this case, you are too susceptible to the opinions of others, there is no need to talk about love here. But you should have your own opinion on this matter. This is your life and only you can decide what to do with it. And what your relatives and parents think is not so scary compared to the ruined life …
Step 4
Take a photo of your partner, take a close look at it. Write on a piece of paper all the qualities that you like about him, and next to them are those features that annoy you. This will help to visually clarify the question of what connects you.
