There are people who have an innate charisma. And it's easier for them to make new friends, be sociable, and influence others. However, an ordinary person can also become popular in society, have a certain weight in the eyes of people.
Instructions
Step 1
To make new friends and influence people, become a confident, self-sufficient person. To do this, conduct a simple auto-training. First, take a sheet of paper and divide it into two parts. On the one hand, write your positive traits, on the other, your negative ones. Speak honestly, no one will see this list except you. Tear off the positive half. Now work with the negative. Replace cowardice with caution, some stinginess - with frugality, etc. Transfer all points that have become useful from negative to the list of positive aspects of character. When you choose a convenient time in the morning, afternoon or evening, read this list by adding "I am smart," "I am kind," and so on. With a huge set of perfect characteristics, you will behave differently in society, earning the respect of others.
Step 2
Learn to speak convincingly. To do this, pay attention to how established leaders build their speech. Where they put stress, at the beginning or end of a sentence, how they highlight expressions and phrases. Practice combining facial expressions and words in front of a mirror at home. Adjust the tone of your voice. The low range is perceived by others much better than the high range, which hurts the ear.
Step 3
Monitor your speech literacy. Remove colloquial and slang phrases from everyday life. Put emphasis correctly. If you do not know a certain word, before using it in conversation, find out its meaning.
Step 4
Look for topics of conversation that are interesting not only to you, but also to the interlocutor. Ask what he enjoys, if he has a hobby, where he works. Attention to one's own person is well received by others. This will help you gain their trust, win them over.
Step 5
If you are asked for advice, try to provide a useful recommendation. You shouldn't tell everyone known truths. Find out what the particular person's problem is and help him. This way you will earn respect for yourself and make a new friend.
Step 6
Don't be afraid to voice your own opinion. Perhaps it will turn out to be correct. Then you will earn credibility in the eyes of others and will be able to influence their actions and deeds.
