An suspicious person is in constant tension. Indeed, in any phrase addressed to him, he is looking for a catch. The feeling of suspiciousness makes his victim believe that others are only busy with noticing his mistakes and mistakes. Of course, it is very difficult for such a person to achieve peace of mind and enjoy life in full force.
Instructions
Step 1
To get rid of suspiciousness, you must first of all find out the cause of its occurrence. Psychologists believe that one of the main ones is incorrect parental attitudes. Constant prohibitions, punishments, and negative labeling can lead to the fact that the child will feel guilty without guilt in any situation. When parents put the opinion of others in the first place, forgetting about the interests and experiences of the child, constantly pulling him down, without explanation forcing him to behave in one way or another, the likelihood that a suspicious and insecure adult will grow out of the little man increases. Another reason is the strong negative experiences that the person had to face. Once having experienced a significant loss, betrayal, moral or physical abuse, he will try to avoid repetition with all his might, as they say, "blowing on the water."
Step 2
Learn to abstract yourself from the situation. When it seems to you that you have been undeservedly offended or hurt, try to look at what happened from the outside. Did the interlocutor really intend to offend or embarrass you? In most cases, your feelings are caused by an increased sensitivity to the opinions of other people. But even the most unpleasant and unflattering words are only the subjective opinion of a single person. Try to turn a deaf ear to non-constructive criticism. Remember that you are a unique person, so you have the right to flaws, mistakes and blunders. And tactlessness of the interlocutor, rudeness and lack of upbringing are his problems.
Step 3
Use I-Messages. It is especially difficult when misunderstanding occurs between loved ones. To explain your vision of the situation and avoid repeating it in the future, try this technique. The first stage is a non-judgmental description of the interlocutor's behavior, for example: "When you raise your voice …". Then go on to state your own experiences using the following expressions: “I feel”, “I feel”, “I become”. Describe the desired development of the situation: "I would like us to be able to talk calmly." Finally, explain why this is so important to you.
