A person from an early age is constantly subject to assessment of his personality: he is assessed by his parents, kindergarten teachers, teachers at school. This process is gradually taking root in the psyche and becomes an indispensable attribute of human existence, sometimes very much interfering with normal life, providing the basis for such destructive emotions as envy, fear, anger, etc. How to learn not to evaluate yourself?
Instructions
Step 1
Stop comparing yourself to anyone else, be it a luckier classmate or a wealthy neighbor. Accept yourself as you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses. Understand the simple truth: there are no people without flaws, everyone has them and it is stupid to dwell on them.
Step 2
Try to turn your "flaws" into strengths, and you will realize that there is no single-valued scale for evaluating people. For example, if you burst a little, learn French, surprise your friends with your perfect pronunciation, many people even like this speech feature. Understand that everything in the world is subjective and there is no objective assessment.
Step 3
Love yourself - this will allow you to live in harmony with yourself. Try to find in yourself more positive character traits, develop them.
Step 4
Do not participate in all sorts of gossip and gossip, do not discuss people, it is better to take this time with more pleasant and useful things.
Step 5
Live by your moral laws, not trying to meet the requirements and assessments of others. The point is that those people who really appreciate you will not do it. And if someone discusses your person, then this is the person whose opinion should not be cherished.
Step 6
Outline the goals and objectives that you need to achieve, strive to achieve them. There is a technique in drawing: to draw a line, you need to see its end point, and, despite the apparent curvature, accurately lead it to its destination; as a result, you will see that the line is really straight. There is no need to assess your capabilities - just strive for your goal.
Step 7
"He who understands does not evaluate, and who evaluates does not understand," says the old Chinese wisdom. Living by this rule, you can cope with fear and insecurity, discover joy, success, inner freedom, understanding of others, leadership … If you realize this and accept it, then you will surely find hidden inner strength and you will be able to communicate with different people without problems, defending, if necessary, your point of view.
