There are situations when, for some reason, you do not want to answer the question asked. It can be either an unpleasant, tactless topic, or a conversation with a not the most pleasant interlocutor, or simply a lack of mood for others to crawl into the soul. At the same time, for some reason it is not possible to say that I do not want to talk on this topic. In such cases, one of several evasion strategies can be applied.
Instructions
Step 1
One of the first and fairly simple strategies is to leave the question unanswered. But it would be somewhat unethical to simply ignore the question, and therefore it is possible to answer without providing any specific information. Thus, the answer will sound, but there will be no sense in it. "How are you?" - "I would like it to be even better." The answer is voiced, but how to evaluate it, let the questioner decide. To the question "How much do you get paid?" You can always answer something standard: "Like everyone else in this area." The question did not remain unanswered, and therefore you can already ask something yourself and change the subject.
Step 2
Another strategy that can be applied in this case is mirroring. In general, this is one of the techniques of active listening, but in a situation where you do not want to answer a question, you can also use it. Here you can either clarify something with a construction like "I understand you correctly, what …" or go deeper into the topic and ask a similar provocative question to the interlocutor. For example, to a question about your personal life, you can say "Do I understand correctly that now the most important thing for you is my personal life?" To delve into the topic in order to put the questioner in place is also quite simple: "When are you going to give birth to your second child?" - "And when are you the third?"
Step 3
Another useful technique is the manifestation of demonstrativeness. This is more suitable for artistic persons, it is much more difficult for modest people to use such a technique. So, wringing your fingers and hands, covering your face and writhing a pathetic grimace of horror, you can say: "Never ask me such questions again in your life!" You can react more calmly and remember how world stars behave at conferences, where the questions are also not distinguished by tact: "Please, next question." And you can express all your bewilderment with a rounded face and the question "What, what did you ask?"
Step 4
Another tactic to avoid answering the question posed is to provide details. Moreover, they need to be communicated so that the person never again wants to ask anything. So, to the frequent question of distant acquaintances "Isn't it time for you to get married?" You can always come up with a long tirade in advance: “Imagine, I was also interested in this here, I bought a book. It was read out. It says that Taurus, born in a leap year and working in the field of advertising (no matter what nonsense to say, it is only important to load the interlocutor), it is difficult to interact with the signs of the fire element. Therefore, now I am looking for a man of the air sign, however, he must still be connected with the Cosmos for work. So until I find my own, I will not be able to. " And as for questions about health in this tactic, you can generally answer for hours without saying a word about the case.
Step 5
Always and in all situations, humor can help. It is not for nothing that a sense of humor is called an assistant in many life situations, and even when interacting with others, it is generally irreplaceable. They ask an uncomfortable question - you need to joke. They continue to make a joke. When the interlocutors understand that you do not intend to answer seriously, they themselves will lag behind. This tactic is especially effective when you ask questions about money: "How much did you buy a voucher for?" - "I sold my kidney, so I even managed to put it aside for a car."You can always say, in the tone of a professional psychologist, "Do you want to talk about this?" or remember humorous programs with the unforgettable phrase "Because gladiolus".
