To believe that some character traits are given to us from birth is, to say the least, strange. Many qualities can be developed, but serious daily work is needed. Some character traits are easier to develop, some more difficult.
Self-confidence
A self-confident person is a priori in a more advantageous position than the one who doubts. Confident people motivate and inspire, they can lead, they are real leaders. To develop this trait, start exercising - it's not only a plus for your self-esteem, but also for body beauty and health. And do not take the reaction of other people to your actions as a standard of the norm. Do not seek approval from other people - you should live your life comfortable for you, and only you can assess the level of comfort. Learn to take responsibility for your actions.
Learn to say no
The inability to refuse is an indicator of low self-esteem and, most likely, a lack of gratitude for the services rendered. As soon as you start giving more than you receive, stress arises, and this is completely unacceptable. Don't be afraid to say no - it's okay. It is much more scary to get people parasitizing on your life.
Sense of humor
People love people who can laugh at themselves and at the most ridiculous situation they find themselves in. Laughter has the amazing ability to defuse a situation. Start to take everything easier, take everything too close to your heart. Look at how other people behave in a delicate situation, and take an example from them - never sulk over trifles and learn to laugh at yourself. And most importantly - be confident in yourself, because this is the key to success.
High work capacity
This is what most people dream of - to work productively and not burn out, not become a workaholic. In fact, the recipe for productivity is very simple - focus. Turn off the sound on your phone, remove any annoyances (music or TV), and you will notice how much easier it becomes to cope with tasks. The comparison is very appropriate - appetite comes with eating - as soon as you start work, inspiration will come to you. Give up multitasking. The volume of work, of course, is higher, but the quality is significantly reduced, and even the body is under stress. It is also very important to eat and sleep in moderation.
The ability to "read" people
Mind reading is, of course, rather a superpower, but sometimes you just need to pay attention to how a person behaves, how he talks to you, maybe hints at something. Become more observant, pay attention to the manners of people, how they communicate with different interlocutors. And just draw your own conclusions. By the way, this is a pretty addicting game.
Charisma
Surely among your acquaintances there is that person who, in your opinion, is liked by absolutely everyone. This is called charisma. If desired, everyone can develop this trait in themselves. Make eye contact with the interlocutor, but do not be too persistent, learn to listen and hear people. Ask questions, make the person you are communicating with the center of the conversation. Never hide your emotions. If you like what the other person says, tell him about it. If you are offended, confess. Draw conclusions at the end of the conversation - what people like about you and what they don't.
Self-control
One of the most "difficult" character traits in terms of mastering. Self-control is the ability to control emotions and behavior. It is he who helps us to achieve our goals. You can talk a lot about self-control, but first of all, you need to learn how to read the signals of your body and decode them correctly. At the first stage, it is important to learn how to restrain simple reactions - rudeness, a desire to raise your voice, and others. Just put yourself above it. Over time, you will understand how easy it is.
