If you really like a young man, but you are not completely satisfied with his character, try to change his behavior. But this must be done wisely, unobtrusively, so as not to push the guy away from him, so that he begins to change based on his own desires.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, write down on a piece of paper those character traits of your young man with which you intend to fight and think over a plan of your actions.
Step 2
If you are not satisfied with the guy's passivity and laziness, then try to captivate him with some interesting business that you should do together. Discuss future plans with him, dream about the future and do everything possible to implement your plans. If you can motivate a man to take action, then he will not need to be pushed towards something, he himself will be happy to take on any, even the most difficult, cases.
Step 3
Do not complain about the lack of initiative of a young man if you yourself have previously shouldered all the problems, troubles and urgent matters on your own shoulders. Let the man show his independence. Make it clear to him that you are a weak, defenseless woman who needs his help and support. Any man has a natural need to protect, care, be a leader. Do your best not to break his masculinity with your excessive activity.
Step 4
If you notice that your loved one is not always truthful with you, try to understand the essence of this behavior. Perhaps you are overly controlling him, not allowing him to spend his free time with friends, or "scolding" for any occasion. In this case, it is worth changing your behavior and talking frankly with the young man. Tell him about your dissatisfaction, but without turning to accusations and shouting. Better tell him that you would be happy if there was sincerity and openness between you, that you are ready to meet him halfway.
Step 5
In the event that you are not satisfied with the guy's sloppiness (his habit of scattering his things everywhere, unwillingness to wash dishes, etc.), then agree with him on the distribution of responsibilities. Discuss the details, considering each other's wishes. If your boyfriend just flatly refuses to take out the trash or wash the dishes, do not insist on this. Let him shop or vacuum.
Step 6
If you notice that your loved one is stingy, very rarely and without much desire gives you gifts, then show him an example of generosity and breadth of soul: more often, even without any particular reason, buy him some souvenirs. The young man will feel awkward after another surprise, and he will have a desire to please you too.
Step 7
Buy theater or concert tickets often, or ask a young man to do so. This will help you instill in a guy a need for beauty, art and will allow you to overcome his rudeness and harshness in statements and behavior.
