Women, girls and girls dream of a prince almost their entire lives. And if one is not found, then they either wait for him until old age, or try to educate him "from what was." If practicality is also more sentimental to you, then it is worth figuring out whether it is possible to change the guy, and how to do it with the least loss for both.
Instructions
Step 1
Determine the difficulty of the problem. There are global life goals and priorities that are unlikely to be redone. And there are small behavioral habits that are not so difficult to change. If you seriously disagree in your understanding of life in general, it is unlikely that you will be able to remake it. But minor misunderstandings can be quite settled.
Step 2
Forget about reproaches. "Saw, Shura, saw" - this slogan of Ostap Bender is not for you. If a man is constantly reminded of something, he will "explode" over time. But his behavior will not change. Don't you know this? You probably know many examples of such reactions of the male part of the population to the attempts of the weak half of humanity to remake them.
Step 3
Praise the right behavior, don't notice the wrong. The carrot-and-stick method has long discredited itself. Psychologists have proven that it is better to use the absence of a carrot instead of a stick. You can calmly and briefly once tell your boyfriend what exactly you want to change in his behavior. It is desirable to obtain his consent for this. But even consent does not guarantee that he will easily get rid of the bad habit. But if he shows willpower and does as he promised, support, praise him. Notice and appreciate the efforts he makes to please you even more. Every time he repeats those actions that you do not like, just do not react to it in any way. Ignore his “wrong” behavior. After some time, he will unconsciously learn to act the way you want.
Step 4
Avoid drawing the attention of strangers to your problems. You should not involve strangers in solving the problem, especially mutual friends or someone's relatives. An exception can be made only for specialists - doctors, trainers, psychologists. You may need them in the struggle for new conditions of interaction. To scold a guy in front of strangers, to make a remark to him in public is categorically not worth it. So you will not change it, but only provoke a series of quarrels and resentments.
