A considerable number of women of different ages are susceptible to Wendy's syndrome. Symptoms can be either very bright or blurred, aggravated by internal or external factors. Where does this syndrome come from, what causes it? And what can the condition lead to if you do not try to correct it?
Despite the fact that Wendy's syndrome is not included in the list of mental pathologies, this condition requires correction. Deformation of character and personality can be so strong that a woman simply cannot exist and build relationships normally, raise children. In addition, if you ignore all the manifestations of the condition and try to get along with it, in the end the syndrome can lead to already serious consequences for the psyche and the nervous system.
Why does Wendy syndrome develop in women?
Experts tend to single out two reasons due to which such a violation is formed:
- toxic parenting;
- outside influence.
As part of the toxic parenting that leads to the development of Wendy's syndrome, the following points are usually present:
- over-control by the mother and father;
- deprivation of personal space; even if a girl has a separate room, she, as a rule, does not feel like a mistress in her, she is constantly in tension from the fact that her parents can come in at any moment, start rummaging through her things, do a rearrangement or cleaning, and so on; this can be especially painful in adolescence;
- constant criticism from eternally dissatisfied parents;
- upbringing in the style of "iron grip": no indulgences, no praise, a ban on the expression of feelings and emotions;
- lack of tactile contact with the child; in the family it is not customary to hug, kiss, or in any other way express their sympathy;
- frequent punishment, including corporal punishment, public humiliation of a child; parents form both anxiety and internal fears, choosing this method of education;
- comparing the child with other children, while not in favor of the child himself;
- formation of the attitude that the child is not worthy of love, care, support and attention;
- any kind of cruelty, both moral and physical;
- "Breaking" the personality and character of the child as it would be convenient for mom and dad; the girl, from which the Wendy woman later grows up, is not considered / regarded as a person at home, her words, actions, demands, her opinion are not taken seriously.
The outside influence, which is the cause of the formation of a pathological character, means the influence of the people around. Criticism and negative attitude from kindergarten teachers or teachers at school, excessive demands from relatives, bullying or simply difficult relationships with classmates, lack of friends, problems with communication in reality or on the Internet - all this can lead to personality deformation and cause Wendy's syndrome.
What does Wendy's syndrome lead to?
Due to toxic upbringing or negative influence from the world, a woman with Wendy syndrome has acutely developed internal fears:
- fear of being unnecessary;
- fear of rejection;
- fear of loneliness;
- fear of being wrong and being punished, and so on.
All this forms a constant anxiety, which can turn into pathology. Wendy women are more likely to develop neuroses, hysteria, depression, anxiety and phobic disorders.
Initially, before the possible occurrence of a pathological disorder, women / girls with Wendy's syndrome can resort to any, even the most risky methods, methods to get love, attention, care and support.
The consequences of the syndrome can also be:
- shopaholism; useless purchases, constant waste of money become the only option for getting pleasure, satisfaction for the woman-Wendy;
- severe hypochondria; suspiciousness can develop into a mild version of paranoia, usually related to health;
- eating disorders; food becomes the only source of pleasant emotions;
- drug addiction, especially often in girls and women with Wendy's syndrome, dependence on tranquilizers, sleeping pills, sedatives is found, which is explained by increased anxiety and excessive anxiety in combination with obsessive thoughts.
