Human curiosity is sometimes unpleasant and sometimes disgusting. There are two ways - openness and closedness in communication. And if friends are sacred, then enemies are not told the truth. You need to learn how to protect yourself from psychological attacks in the form of "uncomfortable" and tactless questions. Inappropriate questions should receive adequate answers.
Sometimes human tactlessness can unsettle us. Falling into the trap of an unceremonious "Barbarian" poking her nose into personal affairs, we sometimes make mistakes: we begin to account, to justify ourselves, automatically allowing ourselves to be put in a conversation a few steps lower. In such cases, more pragmatic people can begin to use our confusion in their own interests - practical or psychological, asserting themselves at our expense in their own eyes.
How can you be used in such a situation?
Didn't it happen that after a meeting with such an unceremonious person everything falls out of hand, and belated answers beat in your head like fish in a cramped aquarium? In any case, along with embarrassment and awkwardness, we feel precious creative energy and peace of mind leaving us.
The more impudent interlocutor "knocks the ground out" from under our feet, takes advantage of our confusion and, thus, dominates not only during the conversation, but also outside it.
If you are of practical interest to an unceremonious interlocutor - for example, you can help advance your career, or have any secrets, or have a relationship with people on whom a lot depends, then do not forget that they can simply set over you in this way influence and use your careless candor or oversight in accordance with pragmatic objectives.
And there is a category of people who are prevented from living by envy, for example, or claims to the world around them. Such people may in fact be psychological vampires, and your confusion will cause them secret gloating and moral satisfaction. Are you ready to act as the person being used?
What to do in such cases?
To tolerate "an elephant in a china shop", fearing to spoil relations, to make an unfavorable impression - or to fight back sharply, unequivocally besieging an annoying counterpart who asks incorrect questions?
The main thing is not to be afraid in such cases of someone else's unflattering assessment. Judge for yourself: who is he, your counterpart, poking his nose into your personal space without permission, and which does not put you, your spiritual comfort, or your right to independence in your personal life at a worth?
Therefore, in any case, do not get lost, try to be relaxed, and then you will not have to go into your pocket for words, you will find them instantly - of course, if you calmly react to the stimulus.
There are two ways - openness and closedness in communication. If your counterpart is a friend you trust, but who overstepped the boundaries a little, you can laugh it off, make fun of yourself, or allow yourself to make fun of your friend. A true friend will understand that he touched you for a sick person, and will not take offense at light "hairpins". But in the future, such awkwardness will no longer arise, most likely.
If your interlocutor is not the most benevolent of the people who are involved in your life, or you feel dislike, do not be afraid to demonstrate slight aggressiveness, do not be afraid to seem not sincere. It is not worth it to be frank with ill-wishers, it can turn into trouble.
No, do not rush to argue with the person who decided to "get you" a little. It's just that irony can be more harsh, on the verge of sarcasm, and verbal counterattack - more active. Psychological protection is an important part of a personal space strategy.
Take care of your spiritual comfort from those who take pleasure in bringing discord and confusion into your inner life, give adequate answers to incorrect questions.
