How often do people want to be noticed, praised at work, appreciated, admired and respected by everyone. This desire develops into a constant need to correspond to the opinions of others, completely forgetting about oneself, one's value and self-respect.
If you stop, think and see what actions you do every day and what you think about at the same time, then you can see signs of your own depreciation and complete disrespect for yourself. In what and how can they manifest themselves?
Signs of loss of self-esteem and self-worth
You work where you absolutely do not want to be, and do something that you do not even want to remember sometimes.
You are friends with someone who is important to you not as a close friend, but as an opportunity to achieve something or get something.
You do your job because you "have to." And you also perform all other actions through the state of "must", "must", "must", forgetting about your true desires.
With a complete lack of respect for yourself, you forget about your soul when you do work or perform some actions. You do this only to be appreciated, praised, promoted.
If you don't respect yourself, you will always do everything for others, expecting praise or recognition. Your goal is to please, to do well for everyone, to show concern in time in order to achieve the love of others.
When you don't respect yourself, you allow everyone around you to interfere in your life, decide for you, give advice when you don't even ask about it. Everyone around you knows how you need to live, where to work, with whom to meet, where to go on vacation, with whom to build a relationship. Those who remember their value and self-respecting people will not allow others to decide something for them.
A self-respecting person will not communicate with those who constantly manipulate, betray, use their environment for personal purposes. Making friends with those who are unpleasant to you and who do not respect you is one of the signs of disrespect for yourself.
The inability to say "no", a negative attitude towards your own appearance, figure, health, abilities, desires, constant comparing yourself with someone - these are also signs that you have devalued yourself.
Solutions
What to do if your own value is lost, and you don't even remember about self-respect?
A specialist who knows and knows how to reveal the hidden potential of a person, find his strengths, increase self-esteem and self-love will help you to deal with your own inner world. Seek personal advice from a psychologist or go to a training session where you can work out the internal blocks, attitudes and behavior patterns. Sometimes it’s better to work with a team, it’s easier to see your problems and solve some issues.
Self-esteem can be lost even in childhood, when parents were too conservative, intolerant of you, demanded to complete all assigned tasks, scolded and punished for poor performance or behavior. In this case, it will not work out for sure on your own to deal with your habits, fears and attitudes. Most often, this is a long-term job that requires your patience and trust between the specialist and you. But if you allow yourself to start changing your beliefs, then very soon you will find significant changes in relationships with others and the appearance of inner confidence in yourself and your strengths, which means your value and respect for yourself will also increase and life will become bright, joyful, fulfilling and fulfilling. wonderful events.
But is it possible to independently change the situation at least a little, to increase self-worth? Undoubtedly. However, for this you will have to work hard and hard, work on yourself, engage in self-development and self-improvement. First you need to look at yourself, your life and your environment. To understand what is wrong and wrong around, which requires urgent and global changes. It is important to understand that in working on yourself in order to regain respect for yourself, you will have to go beyond the comfort zone, break off toxic relationships, and take serious steps. If you do not have a true desire and desire for change inside you, then time will be wasted and changes in life will not happen.
Having identified for yourself the main signs of loss of self-worth, try to slowly, step by step move away from them, get rid of them. Read psychological literature, watch educational videos on the Internet, look for ways that will be relevant specifically for you. Because there is no single alternative and quick solution to such a problem. If you do not know how to refuse, try to understand why this is happening, and then gradually learn to say "no". Work through every nuance in this way. And do not forget: if you do not have enough strength for self-correction, do not hesitate to seek help.
