The beginning of a relationship between a man and a woman is accompanied by pleasant emotions and sensations: butterflies are flying in the stomach, the whole world is seen as beautiful, the partner is ideal, and it seems that it will always be so. But gradually the euphoria subsides, gray everyday life sets in, and after them the first reproaches and quarrels.
When the first quarrels and frictions arise, many decide that they made a mistake in their choice or that love has passed and are in a hurry to leave. But in vain. Because love hasn't even begun yet. For a real feeling of love to be born between two people, it takes a lot of time and joint work to overcome conflicts, without which the growth of relations is simply impossible. Psychologists identify 7 stages in the development of a love union:
- The first stage is the bouquet-candy period, in which the lovers voluntarily put on rose-colored glasses, and it seems that this will go on forever. As a result of research, it was revealed that the state of falling in love is accompanied by a change in hormonal levels, which explains the all-encompassing state of euphoria. At such a moment, a person becomes dull in the literal sense of the word: he does not see reality. Rather sees, but heavily embellished.
- The second stage is characterized by the fact that the glasses of the glasses begin to fade, and the partner no longer seems so perfect. His shortcomings become more obvious, crazy sex 10 times a day bothers, passions subside. Partners no longer strive to be 100% merged with each other. This is a moment of satiety. The hormonal background is normal.
- The maximum distance from the partner, his rejection. Often at this stage, people already live together, and living together is one of the topics for conflicts. Lovers forget about the positive sides of each other and, having become acquainted with the partner's shortcomings, now concentrate only on them. This level is considered decisive - those who are unable to make compromises, who do not want to give in, will certainly part. If the couple manages to get through this period, then their relationship will go to another, higher quality level.
- At the fourth stage, the couple learns tolerance, wisdom, the ability to accept the other as he is, to forgive insults. Mutual respect is born here. Conflicts and quarrels are still present, but their severity subsides and the number decreases.
- Total trust and service to each other: here there is a spiritual rapprochement of people, all superficial masks are removed and self-disclosure takes place in front of a partner. Gratitude, desire to please and please characterize this period.
- By this time, people have come a long way, have a lot of joint experience, they know each other as flaky. Friendship is born here. At this level, it is already difficult to destroy such an alliance.
- And the last level is actually the birth of love. Partners become dear people, like-minded people, feeling each other for kilometers and understanding at a glance. There is no place for doubts in a loved one, jealousy and deceit. A man and a woman become valuable to each other simply for what is in this world.
