Love is a contradictory and mysterious feeling, the secrets of which have been trying to unravel over the centuries the great minds of literature, philosophy, culture, psychology, etc. Experiencing for the first time an unusual sensation of "weightlessness", a person thinks that this is great love. However, there are several typical stages in the development of this beautiful feeling. If you managed to go through all the stages with your partner, then we can say with confidence that you have known the miracle of true love.
Stage one
This period lasts about a year. You perceive your beloved in a distorted light, that is, you idealize appearance, character, habits, lifestyle, etc. You are sure that you have found a person with whom you are ready to share both grief and joy. After each meeting, there is a feeling of euphoria, pleasure and inner satisfaction. From a scientific point of view, this fact is explained by the production of a large amount of hormones endorphin and oxytocin. Psychologists agree that such a reaction to a soul mate is absolutely normal at the beginning of a relationship.
Stage two
The stage is characterized by a feeling of satiety in the partner. The constant stay in a single space, the lack of romance and the visible flaws of the partner begin to frankly irritate both. There comes that stage at which routine comes into its own. The period of satiety can last from one to three years and periodically give way to a feeling of love. As a rule, the majority of divorces occur in the second stage.
Stage three
Explicit disgust, constant sorting out of the relationship, the desire to adjust the partner to themselves, control and selfishness are typical signs of the third stage of love. You find more and more flaws in your loved one, and all the advantages fade into the background. It is possible to pass this stage only thanks to wisdom and inner endurance. Sometimes a couple breaks up and a man or woman starts looking for a new partner. At the same time, the cyclical circle repeats itself and again you will be disappointed.
Stage four
During this stage, you clearly realize that it is impossible to remake your partner and begin to perceive a person with all the pros and cons. The sense of humility is the main feeling you experience. Lovers try to smooth out sharp corners as much as possible, learn to forgive, not demand attention in return, accept and support each other. The woman becomes more flexible in behavior, and the man is aimed at harmonizing relations in general.
Stage five
The main goal at this stage is mutual respect and the desire to bring joy to a loved one. If a quarrel arises, then the couple knows in advance ways to resolve the conflict without causing mental pain to the partner. This period begins after about 10-15 years of marriage and can last for a long time. Psychologists characterize the stage as the highest manifestation of warm friendly feelings.
Stage six
True love is the result that you get by going through all the other stages. A deep and sincere feeling comes naturally and deservedly. Partners recognize that the other half is an individual with priorities that should be respected. The understanding comes that true love has nothing to do with habit, attachment and emotional dependence.
