It often seems to us that we have no control over the events that occur in life, and that everything is determined by a certain fate. This behavior, according to psychologists, is called "scenario". With such a "way" of life, it often seems that all events are repeated in a circle, in other words, there is a constant "marking time in one place." The best way out of this situation would be to contact a psychologist, however, with the help of introspection, you can achieve a lot, including solving this problem. Below are a few steps, after passing which, the changes in your destiny will become quite real.
Instructions
Step 1
If you feel a repetition of some life situations, analyze the nature of their occurrence and what they may have in common. Most likely, the reason for their appearance is precisely in you, in your internal attitude.
Step 2
Stop using the words "if only …" in the context of your life. For example: "If not for my boss, I would have been promoted long ago." Remember that you are the master of your destiny, and only you are responsible for what happens in it.
Step 3
Don't look for the guilty ones. Nowhere: not in others, not in yourself. Understand that life isn't always easy. And if something does not work out now, you need to carefully analyze the situation in order to do it differently in the future, and then everything will definitely work out.
Step 4
Decide what kind of changes you expect in your life, what specifically does not suit you: the absence of a soul mate, career growth at work. You cannot get what you cannot even articulate. Take a piece of paper and write down your wishes for the twists and turns in your life. Next, describe the possible ways to achieve your goals. Be realistic and honest with yourself. Perhaps, already at this initial stage, you will revise several points - you simply will not need them.
Step 5
List all the accomplishments in your life on a piece of paper. See how many there are? Then why are you unhappy with your fate? Perhaps you do not need drastic changes, but new goals that already imply emotions and impressions? A trip to India can now be considered not from the point of view of a fateful turn, but a new career turn in your life, because you can get a job there. Be optimistic because you need the positive nature of change.
Step 6
Don't expect to see instant changes in your life. Learn to be friends with your destiny, and then you will get rid of the feeling of predestination and hopelessness in order to strive for happiness with renewed vigor.
