Everyone keeps telling you from everywhere: "Change!", "You have a difficult character, you need to change!" But how to do that? When it comes to external changes, you do your hair, buy a new dress and shoes, change your makeup and apply your makeup in a different way. But with what is inside you, it is much more difficult, especially if you have not done it before.
Instructions
Step 1
Don't despair. If you have a firm intention, you can move mountains.
First, determine what is happening in your life now. Are you happy? What prevents you from experiencing joy and happiness? What events are taking place in your life?
Step 2
Now you need to understand what the situation looks like when you are satisfied and happy. Imagine your ideal self. What are you? What qualities do you possess, what do you do, how do you communicate? Who is around you? Is this what you want? If yes, go to the next item. If not, keep making yourself perfect.
Step 3
Meanwhile, "what you are now" and "ideal you" there is a difference. Determine what you are missing now in order to achieve a "happy image". Understand what exactly you want to change in yourself or your life and what prevents you from being happy. Perhaps this is some kind of your quality, habit, or their absence. It is very important not to switch from your qualities to another person, because you decided to change yourself. If we assume that the culprit of what is happening is “someone else, but not you,” then this is the same as giving responsibility for yourself to an outsider. Only children can do this.
It is important to identify and articulate the qualities that will lead you to success and goal achievement.
Step 4
When the qualities are determined, think about whether there is a person with these traits in your environment? How does he behave, how does he resolve such issues? If there is no such person, try watching movie characters or just outsiders on the street.
Step 5
Read literature on a topic that interests you. Nowadays, there is a lot of open information about everything in the world. In a large bookstore, you are sure to find the books you need. If there is no one to advise you on authors and titles, check the internet for what people recommend.
Step 6
The fastest way to change something in yourself is to see a specialist. Now there are a lot of training programs, where work to achieve goals takes place in a group. You can also contact a psychologist and take individual consultations from him. When it comes to deep internal changes, it can be very difficult to determine them yourself. In this case, the diagnosis itself is carried out by a psychologist.
If you need to acquire skills, attend master classes on a specific topic, where they will tell you step by step how to develop a particular ability.
