Sometimes people have known each other for a long time, but still do not understand each other. With new acquaintances, it is also not easy: the first impression can be deceiving and misunderstanding arises. For effective communication, you need to find out what the other person is interested in.
Show interest in your partner's hobbies
Nothing disposes the interlocutor so much as a sincere interest in his field of activity and hobbies. Ask your communication partner how he spends his free time: he prefers active or passive rest, what books he reads, what music and films he prefers.
Find out his favorite hobby, ask about close friends. Based on all the information, you can understand the life values of the individual and get an idea of the needs, interests and plans.
Learn to listen
A person is so arranged that he is really only interested in his plans and problems. Often, even in communicating with loved ones, a person, out of politeness, is interested in business and success, and at the same time continues to do something or think about something. He nods, casually assesses, comments on the phrase he heard separately. As a result, a formal conversation took place, but no contact took place on the psychological and emotional level. Later, there is a desire to clarify something, but the interlocutor is no longer in the mood to repeat himself.
To understand the inner world of another person, you need to be able to listen carefully. Do not get distracted during the conversation and do not interrupt the interlocutor. Share his emotions, experiences, clarify the essence of the problem.
In communication, it is important to remember that people express their thoughts and interpret feelings in different ways. If a phrase sounded ambiguous, it is better to ask if you understood its content correctly.
Tune in "one wave"
To better understand a person, you need to be able to tune in with him "on the same wavelength." If he is active and cheerful by nature, create a similar mood in yourself: joke more and smile. If your communication partner is prone to seriousness, then you also switch to philosophical questions.
Keep in mind that it is easier to understand a person if you are similar in character and temperament to him. You can easily sense when he is angry, tired, or worried about something. Otherwise, it is worth being observant and paying attention to what behavior and reactions are characteristic of a person in different situations.
Your partner should not be “interrogated with bias” when he is not in the mood to be frank or simply out of sorts. The easiest way to find out what a person needs is to establish a sincere and trusting relationship with him. In this case, there is no need to make assumptions about other people's needs and motives, but you can ask directly and get an honest answer.
