Some imperfections can get in the way of a full, happy life. If you are determined to get rid of the shortcomings that you see in yourself, start working on yourself.
Necessary
- - paper;
- - pen
Instructions
Step 1
Decide on the base with which you will work. Make a list of all the qualities of your character that you consider negative. Write down those traits that are considered positive if they prevent you from enjoying life and achieving your goals. This can also be, because some personal qualities benefit the individual only to a certain extent, and their overabundance can give the opposite result.
Step 2
Review each item on the resulting list separately. Analyze what qualities are interconnected, what shortcomings are the main ones, determine where it is better to start working on yourself. Maybe the downside of some of the qualities is positive. Then they must be deleted. At the same time, keep in mind when this trait is beneficial, and in what cases it only interferes.
Step 3
Take care of your motivation. Describe how your life will change after getting rid of each of the listed shortcomings. After you understand what work on yourself will give you, it will be easier for you to complete it and stay on the intended path. Keep the ideal image you want in your head, and this picture will give you the strength to carry out your plans.
Step 4
Think about how you can eradicate this or that deficiency. The easiest way is to act contrary to quality. For example, you consider yourself a greedy person. To get rid of this trait, start giving gifts to loved ones, colleagues, and friends. Find out how you can do charity work and donate money to good causes. Do not spare money on yourself. Feel the joy of spending money on something good, necessary, pleasant, kind, or useful.
Step 5
Act systematically, eradicating first your biggest shortcomings, and then all others. Auto-training will provide you with additional help. Repeat positive affirmations to yourself. Just put them in the right way. For example, if you think you are too humble an individual, repeat to yourself several times a day about how brave, confident, and sociable you are.
Step 6
Remember, in order to change, you need to leave your psychological comfort zone. If you just know what qualities need to be adjusted to become better, but do not take decisive action, the miracle will not happen. Working on yourself involves constant overcoming. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. Remember what you want to achieve and how it will help you in life. Praise and reward yourself for every step you take on the path to excellence.
