Softness and femininity are very attractive qualities in a girl, but they can turn into shyness and downtroddenness. In this case, you can feel worthless, useless, and therefore very unhappy.
Instructions
Step 1
Make a list of the qualities that you would like to develop in yourself and from which you would like to get rid of. Think about how you can achieve this. For example, you want to be able to freely carry on a conversation with men, laugh at their jokes and joke yourself. Internet communication can be a good workout.
Step 2
Register on the forum of people with whom you have common interests and chat about any topic. You will have time to reflect on your lines and the opportunity to edit your response. Gradually, you will learn to communicate with ease and make acquaintances with different people.
Step 3
Surely among your acquaintances there are people who can become an example for you - learn useful things from them. Pay attention to how they dress, how they parry jokes and remarks, how they get out of a difficult situation … Of course, you should not try to become a copy of another person - your personality in itself is priceless.
Step 4
The ability to do something well gives you self-confidence. Think about what you can and what you can learn. This can be sports, cooking, handicrafts, painting, photography, and more. Find friends with the same interests, share experiences, rejoice at their successes and believe that your achievements will also be a joy for them. The support of your like-minded people will help you feel interesting and respected.
Step 5
Perhaps you suffer from imperfections - imaginary or real - in your appearance. However, you don't have to be a model to feel like an interesting attractive woman. Beauty is health. A good complexion, smooth skin, healthy hair, teeth and nails will make you quite a pretty girl, and active sports will help correct figure flaws. You can find the methods of skin and hair care that suit you on specialized sites, in popular science publications, or consult a beautician.
Step 6
A serious problem for timid, insecure people is the inability to refuse requests. This can be abused by shameless colleagues and acquaintances. Learn to say no. Imagine yourself as a separate state that needs to maintain its sovereignty and at the same time maintain peaceful relations with its neighbors. Decide which part of the "territory" should remain exclusively your personal space, and strictly guard these boundaries.
Step 7
Set priorities for yourself: to whom of those around you do you owe a lot (as a rule, these are close relatives and loyal friends who have proven their friendship), to whom - only by virtue of official relations, and to whom you do not owe anything at all.
Step 8
If at work you are asked to fulfill someone else's job responsibilities, it may be difficult for you to refuse outright. Offer to change: you will do the job of the one who asked, and he, in turn, will work for you. And clearly list what he will have to do. Better, of course, to gather up the courage and say: “No, it won't work. I have so much of my own work that I have no time to raise my head. If you use a milder form of refusal: “Oh, I don’t know if it will work out … I have so much work that I probably just don’t have time,” you may later be accused of what you promised to do and did not do.
Step 9
To outsiders who use your personal time for their own purposes, answer their requests simply: "Unfortunately, it won't work, I have other plans." Of course, it is not at all necessary to tell someone about the details of these plans.
Step 10
The most difficult situation is when you are used by a loved one, with whom you value very much. Try not to allow games with only one goal, contact him, in turn, with requests. If you are constantly rejected under various pretexts, and you, on the contrary, are burdened with burdensome tasks, consider whether it is worth voluntarily becoming a free servant.
Step 11
You cannot keep a person next to you in this way - on the contrary, the less you value yourself and your time, the less they will value you. Feel free to refuse in response to rejection - an unequal relationship is unlikely to make you happy.
