It is always difficult to start a conversation, even if it is a correspondence. But even having overcome the psychological discomfort and firmly decide to start a conversation, the person does not know which words to choose.
Instructions
Step 1
Reveal the motive. A person in communication seeks, first of all, benefits. Everyone has their own: get rid of loneliness, gain new knowledge, make contacts in a certain environment, show off in front of new acquaintances, increasing their self-esteem. Even if a person is completely unfamiliar (for example, it's just a nickname on the Internet), he still leaves traces of his mental activity. And before you start communicating, it would be good to drive his name, email address (or username, if it is unique enough) on the Internet. If it turns out that the stunning handsome man has a habit of borrowing money from his virtual girlfriends and disappearing without a trace, then the question of correspondence should disappear by itself.
Step 2
A request that is pleasant to fulfill. If this is a communication on a social network, then it will be useful to look at the interests or place of residence of the person, and then come up with a question that the interlocutor will easily and pleasantly answer, demonstrating knowledge of the subject. At the same time, it is not necessary to ask direct and ingenuous questions such as: "Is it scary to jump with a parachute?" There is little pleasure in communicating with a layman. It is better to dig a little deeper into the topic in order to appear before the interlocutor as a person, even a beginner.
Step 3
Skills that may interest the interlocutor. This method is suitable when a person himself is open to communication, openly speaks about his interests, seeks to show himself, uploads a lot of personal photos, especially beach, home from parties. Here it would be appropriate to express sympathy (but without obsession and outright flattery) and offer communication, telling a little about yourself. An accurate phrase in the spirit of: "You seemed / seemed to me a nice and open person. I think it will be interesting for us to talk about …" In this case, it would be appropriate to offer your help in the area that seems to the person the most interesting. If a girl is interested in a certain direction in music, then you can broaden your horizons in order to interest her.
Step 4
Good manners. A person who seeks to sharply reduce the distance in communication is often alarming and repulsive. And the interlocutor who begins the correspondence in soft, delicate terms, maintains a sincere intonation and does not try to embellish and lie, evokes the most favorable impression. In correspondence, the first two or three letters are the most important. And in order to mask some flaws (for example, illiteracy or ignorance of complex words), you have to use dictionaries, books, magazines, websites - additional literature.
Step 5
Originality. Remember the question from the Soviet film: "Hello. Can you tell me where the nofelet is?" If the interlocutor is a young and easy-going person, then after greeting you can write a funny question that will arouse interest. "Ping-pong by correspondence" is a special kind of sport in which humor and the ability to think not boring are appreciated. But these skills need to be honed.
