Men and women treat serious relationships differently. Most often, a man, meeting a woman, takes the relationship for granted, and women elevate their feelings, which over time can develop into a love addiction.
Fatal passion
The inability to concentrate, constant anxiety, fixation on the "object of desire" are typical syndromes of manifestation of a kind of illness, in the literature called "fatal passion", and psychologists interpreted it as love addiction.
The insane attachment of a woman to a man sucks out vital energy to a drop, leaving a place in the head only for thoughts of a loved one, and overfilling the soul with fatigue.
The result of all this can be shattered nerves, lack of self-love, total lack of confidence in their abilities.
Who can fall victim to love addiction?
The lack of parental love in childhood often leads to a feverish soul filling with love in the future. Having met her “ideal partner”, the only desire of a woman becomes to keep him near her, literally “to dissolve in him”.
Low self-esteem may also come from childhood. It leads to the fact that their needs and problems are relegated to the background. The desire to please a loved one becomes the meaning of life.
This leads to the fact that all his time and effort is spent on meeting his needs. Even the thought of one's own desires seems blasphemous.
It must be remembered that love dependence gives a man, the object of such love, a feeling of permissiveness, power, and this cannot lead to good consequences and harmony in a relationship.
How can you deal with love addiction?
The general formula is simple and clear: if you want to change your life, change yourself, and therefore you need:
- stop considering the beloved man as an ideal, and for this, remember the situations in which he behaved not in the best way, his not the most pleasant habits, and finally, impartially evaluate the appearance of the “fatal” man. If this "mental work" is done qualitatively, then 100: 1 it will turn out that next to an ordinary person with his own shortcomings;
- to increase self-confidence. A visit to a beauty salon will be the first step. Your new image can work a miracle.
Communication with positive, successful and interesting people is guaranteed to lift your spirits, distract from negative thoughts.
A new hobby (dancing, yoga, psychology seminars, foreign language courses) will take up the lion's share of free time and will not allow negative thoughts to linger in your head for a long time.
Finally, according to the famous psychologist Vladimir Levy, good literature, music, painting helps to survive in any situation, and it is difficult to argue with that.
