Self-esteem greatly affects a person's life. And it is very important precisely in adolescence to help the child deal with his level of aspirations. Psychologists say that low self-esteem is manifested when a child does not fully feel the love of his parents. If you do not help him in time, he will look for a way out in another. So, many teenagers start smoking, drinking or falling into computer addiction. Sometimes low self-esteem is hidden behind the outer shell - unthinkable hairstyles, piercings. Of course, only parents can help a child in his throwing.
Instructions
Step 1
Praise your child for any victories. Praise is very beneficial for self-esteem. Encourage him for any zeal for development, self-expression. All children are talented in their own way, so do not scold him for any mistakes in school or sports. If he doesn’t succeed, help him. Let the child feel that you love him not for good grades, but simply for the fact that he is.
Step 2
Maintain your teen's confidence. Tell him more often that you believe in him, that he will cope with any difficulties. Emphasize how it changes for the better day by day.
Step 3
Children are doubly sensitive to criticism from strangers - classmates, teachers. Therefore, if you see that the child is upset about something, take an interest in his affairs. Explain that if the criticism is fair, then it should be taken into account, and if not, then simply not focus on it.
Step 4
In no case do not exaggerate any negative actions of the teenager. Instead of the phrase "You never listen to me!" say "I think that if you listened to my advice, you would have done it even better", or the reproach "You are behaving badly!" replace with "I am very worried when you behave like this."
Step 5
Give the children the right to solve some problems themselves, for example, what to do in their free time or which section to enroll in. Making decisions like this builds self-confidence and self-esteem.
Step 6
Communicate with the child more often, take an interest in his affairs. Do not get off with routine phrases when he wants to talk about life, share his impressions about something.
Step 7
It is important to find an interesting hobby for the child and in every possible way support him in this. The child must be at least somewhat better than the others. Constantly emphasize his skills in this area.
Step 8
Create your child's personal hall of fame. Hang in this place all his letters, some awards. But don't overdo it - don't turn this place into a museum.
Step 9
Most importantly, love your child and always support him.
