Suicidal thoughts occur to many people. The reasons for committing suicide can be very different. It can be very difficult to convince such people to give up suicide, they need a special approach.
Listen to the person
If you want to save someone from suicide, you need to listen carefully. Remember that the person is extremely depressed. If he is thinking about suicide, chances are you won't be able to help him based on your own experience. Moreover, inept attempts to help can only worsen the situation. A person, if he decided to share his problems, actually cries out for help, he opens his soul to you. Misunderstanding on your part can hurt him a lot.
Another mistake you can make is not to take the word of suicide seriously. If the person talks about wanting to commit suicide, do not try to joke or change the subject in any way. In the overwhelming majority of cases, such words are backed up by strong intent.
Implicit signs
Communication with a person does not always allow you to accurately understand his intentions. He can talk about his problems, difficulties in life, but not directly report suicide. In this case, you need to pay attention to the statements, which are usually extremely emotional. For example, a person may say that no one needs him, and no one will notice his disappearance.
Another sign of suicidal tendencies may be the words that a person no longer has hopes for something or he is no longer able to do anything. Perhaps this is an attempt to show that a person is giving up, he is preparing to die.
In a person's speech, there may be obvious signs that speak of suicidal thoughts. For example, he is worried about how his loved ones will live in the future, is interested in drugs that he does not need to take, is extremely difficult to experience minor difficulties, etc.
Causes of thoughts of suicide
It would be a big mistake to think that the person talking about suicide is insane and does not understand his actions. Do not allow such assumptions in your speech, this will show that you do not understand what is happening. Try to take the person's words seriously. You cannot know in advance what problems have brought a person to this state. Try to get into the position of the interlocutor, say that you are afraid for him. Try to find out what exactly pushes him to commit suicide. However, in no case ask the person why he decided to commit suicide. With this question, you place the blame for what is happening on him, in fact, blaming him for his problems. Talk about the circumstances in which he fell, but not about his actions.
Talk about things that are important to him
Once you understand what is the reason for this person's behavior and trust develops between you, you can talk to him about the things that keep him from suicide. For example, ask him how his children will react to this, if he has any. Ask what will be the kindred and close people to him. However, don't talk about things that might make the situation worse. For example, if a person wants to commit suicide because of a conflict with a loved one, do not say that this is fixable and that everything will work out. Talk about abstract, but also very important topics for a person. Try to get him to talk about his dreams and goals in life, help him understand that there are many more reasons to continue living with him.
Contact the specialists
If you do not have the necessary skills, do not try to solve a person's problems alone. You can talk to him at first, find out the reasons for his behavior and provide some help. However, you should not keep such conversations a secret, even if the person asks you to. Professional help in this case is extremely necessary.
