Excessive emotionality, inability to control words and deeds sometimes cost too much. Sincere, good people, due to their inability to maintain balance, are able to reach conflict in relationships, cause mutual hatred, destroy family, friendship, and career. How to learn to cope with heightened emotionality?
Imbalance
Many people complain that they cannot collect their "nerves" in a box, restrain themselves in order to maintain balance and not stir up an impending conflict, get rid of feelings of nervousness and anxiety, or "recover" after an emotional shock or stress. There are more than enough circumstances in life that provoke a surge of emotions: exams, job interviews, conclusion of important deals, clarification of the relationship with the boss or a loved one … But you never know things in life that can throw us off balance. An unbalanced person can explode and say too much, cry, commit an inadequate act, which he will later regret - and thereby spoil not only the impression of himself, but also close some opportunities for himself.
There are two ways to overcome emotional crises. The first one is to restrain emotions, which is not the best, since by suppressing emotions in ourselves, we risk accumulating a critical mass of negativity inside - and a real emotional explosion will occur. The second is to learn to control yourself and control your emotions. This path is more productive.
Watch yourself
It is important to understand for yourself how an emotional breakdown manifests itself in you. One person breaks down for aggression, the second suddenly starts crying, the third one loses the gift of speech. You should carefully study your own reactions and build the situation in such a way as to protect yourself in the eyes of others. Therefore, when you feel that emotions are starting to spiral out of control, make sure that the consequences of the emotional outburst do not reflect on your career, ruin your public speaking, or lead you into a sense of shame or embarrassment in front of witnesses of your weakness.
Deal with fatigue
Emotional control is weakened when a person is tired. You should not accumulate fatigue, fight it. Allow yourself to rest, change your surroundings, pamper yourself with something pleasant. Camping, partying with trusted friends, or shopping for good shopping can help shift your energy to positive things and reduce the risk of an emotional breakdown with negative consequences. Physical work helps a lot, just do not forget that physical work should be enjoyable. During your break or vacation, try to strengthen your nervous system. To do this, you may need to do meditation, yoga, sports exercises. Walks, during which you can, for example, collect pebbles or take photographs, do not hurt. Don't forget that creativity heals. Think about forgotten hobbies, read a book that you have put aside for a long time. Sit by the water, free yourself from obsessive thoughts, listen to birdsong, or just watch the fish in the aquarium.
Breathe deeply
If you feel that you are under stress, stop, get into a comfortable position, relax, breathe deeply and slowly, try to get rid of the rush. Don't be afraid to be late - remember that your peace of mind is the key to efficiency in any work. Analyze your own emotions: try to understand what exactly unsettles you, what is the trigger for emotions. You should not skimp on time if you want to devote it to "putting things in order" inside. Clear thoughts are a guarantee that emotions will not overwhelm you unexpectedly. Favorite music will help bring emotions and thoughts into a state of harmony. You should not listen to something new in critical situations. Familiar calm music will work well, it will relieve stress and return emotions to their usual course.
Don't be afraid to see a psychotherapist
If you manage to control your emotions worse and worse, and the suppression of emotions depressing your mood, moreover, you are confused and cannot calm down on your own, and the "flashes" of adrenaline inside plunge you into a state of melancholy or fear - you should think about a visit to a psychologist. psychotherapist. A professional in his field will help you understand the intricacies of causes and effects, remember forgotten nervous shocks and difficult impressions in order to experience them consciously and part with them. By the way, a reliable friend or girlfriend can play the role of a psychotherapist. You can, of course, rely on your loved one in these matters, but this is fraught with consequences. Close, loving people are impressionable, and if you "load" such a person - the relationship may suffer, and the feeling of awkwardness and guilt - push you away from the one who involuntarily became a "vest" for you. However, if there is unconditional trust and spiritual closeness between you and a loved one, then you can even give vent to tears. Having cried, you will free your psyche from unnecessary emotions.
