In the old days in Russia, modesty was considered a virtue, but the modern rhythm of life makes a person be active and self-confident. To overcome excessive modesty, you need to seriously work on yourself - this is the only way to achieve success in your personal and professional life.
Instructions
Step 1
Use a psychological trick to help you get rid of excessive stiffness. It has long been noticed that external and internal relaxedness are closely interconnected. This means that if you want to overcome modesty, you need to adopt the behavior of a confident and open person. Observe your boss or a successful colleague, note the confident person's gestures, postures, and habits, and “try on” it all for yourself in front of the mirror. Learn to move calmly, speak, not pinch and keep relaxed.
Step 2
Try an exercise that builds social skills and helps you deal with communication difficulties. It consists in the fact that you have to get to know different people. Try talking to strangers in any situation and in a wide variety of places - in the store, on the train, etc. The more often you communicate, the less shyness and tension you will feel when speaking. Remember your timbre of speech, gestures and facial expressions during direct conversation. In the future, these feelings will help you regain confidence when dealing with any person.
Step 3
Imagine yourself as a strong and attractive person, or find a role model among famous people. If you can fully get used to the role, you will be able to behave much more relaxed and more confident.
Step 4
Resist your shyness. Are you late for work and want to go to the table as discreetly as possible? Enter the office directly, calmly say hello, apologize and go to your place. Women in such a situation should not walk on their toes - knock with heels and do not hesitate to attract attention.
Step 5
Release your stiffness by singing. A shy person often speaks in a muffled and abrupt voice. Singing in full voice helps to relieve spasm from the vocal cords and get used to speaking loudly and confidently.
Step 6
Ask for the opinion of the interlocutors. Shy people often have higher intelligence than less shy peers, as they spend more time educating themselves. If you are afraid to express your opinion - ask. In the course of the conversation, it will be easier for you to show your erudition and education.
Step 7
Compliment people. Pleasant words call on the interlocutor to reciprocate courtesy and make communication easy and informal. In addition, complimenting others will remove the label of the arrogant and unsociable person that is often hung on shy and timid people.
