Confidence can work miracles in a person's life. It relieves the constant stress that occurs when communicating with strangers. Thanks to her, persistence and desire to achieve the set goals are manifested in spite of everything. With her help, you will be able to build the life of your dreams. How to improve self-esteem and build confidence? This is what will be discussed in the review.
Many people want to learn to trust themselves, their abilities. Realize your value and uniqueness. With confidence, you can find a way out of your comfort zone. With the help of faith in your own strength, you will be able to achieve tremendous heights. But first, it needs to be raised to an acceptable level.
Lack of confidence prevents people from setting ambitious goals, achieving the desired result and defending their point of view. Subsequently, due to this behavior, depression may appear. How to become confident, how to increase self-esteem? First you need to figure out how the lack of faith in oneself affects life.
When there is no certainty
- There is a feeling of one's own inferiority. You constantly have to struggle with feelings of guilt. Moreover, this feeling can appear even after a simple conversation with a stranger.
- There is a feeling that everyone around you is unfair to you. And fate and luck have completely turned away from you.
- There are always feelings that you made a mistake in choosing a life and work partner. That no one appreciates you or treats you the way you deserve.
- Somewhere in the depths of your soul lies the feeling that you were born for another life. However, someone always interferes with achieving success and realizing a dream. Enemies, ill-wishers, competitors, loved ones, life circumstances - all this does not allow you to live the way you want.
- You constantly envy everyone around you.
- Constantly comparing yourself to your more successful friends. However, you always look worse.
- Depend on the opinions of the people around you.
- You buy not what you like, but what is cheaper.
If you observe in yourself at least some of the above points, then self-esteem is at a fairly low level. How can you increase your self-confidence?
First, you need to realize that there are problems. And they appeared because of your mistakes, and not because life is unfair to you.
Secondly, give up self-pity, stop blaming the people around you for your own failures.
Third, learn to follow your own desires and aspirations. Stop being led by others.
Straighten up and change your hike
How to improve self-esteem and build confidence? Erect posture, open gestures, and a firm gait will help in this. All this is an indicator of a person who firmly believes in his own capabilities.
Therefore, try to always walk straight and look not at your feet, but in front of you. The gait should be vigorous and energetic. Everything is simple enough. Perhaps this simplicity will frighten someone. But if you follow the recommendations for at least a month, you can see the first changes in your own self-esteem.
According to numerous studies, body language has a huge impact on reducing stress levels.
Give up negative thinking
This is much more complicated. But you need to try to achieve quality changes in life.
Controlling internal dialogue is a great way to build self-confidence and willpower. How to boost self-esteem and build self-confidence? Try to keep track of your thoughts for at least a week. Write out negative beliefs that negatively affect determination, faith in yourself.
Try to prove to yourself that it is impossible to live without these beliefs. At the same time, act as a strict critic who treats all statements with a high degree of irony. As a result, you will realize that many negative beliefs have no basis at all. It is better to refuse them.
It is also worth writing down all your positive traits in a separate list. When negativity reigns in your thoughts, just start reading it. This will help you gain faith in yourself and get rid of bad beliefs.
Stop lying to yourself
Be hyper honest with yourself. For example, if someone asked you about your hobby, and you did not want to answer, then you need to find the reasons for this. Why are you hiding your own hobby? Why don't you want to talk about your own responsibilities at work? Most likely, in the end, you will have to change either your hobby or your job in order to stop being ashamed of them.
Don't quit right away if you don't want to tell a stranger or unfamiliar person about your job. But if you refuse to tell your best friends about your hobbies, this is already a serious sign that you are doing the wrong thing.
When you stop hiding a part of yourself from loved ones, you will immediately feel more confident.
