One of the reasons why we feel insecure is that we cannot relate our real “I” to the ideal “I”. And in order to become better, there are two strategies: to start developing and strive for the ideal, or to lower the requirements for yourself. Which is harder or easier? It is difficult to answer unequivocally here. Without a thorough analysis of a person's personal experience, it is difficult to fully understand this problem. But there is a universal strategy on how to become more confident.
First, you need to define your values. For example, if time is important to you, then you need to learn how to manage it. Op - and you become more self-confident. The same goes for the value of "work". To become more self-confident, you need to pay attention to this area. If you build a career, you will instantly see positive changes.
You also need to spare no money for yourself. What does this mean? No, not greed in any way. It is generally very harmful. It means investing in your own development. In the future, this will bring significantly more funds. In general, remember: there is not a single skill that does not pay off.
How can you invest in yourself? To do this, you can sign up for courses, trainings, learn how to drive a car, make a beautiful image. By the way, not only other people greet you by your clothes, but so do you. Therefore, you need to pay attention to your appearance. But don't get hung up either. Remember that being accurate is simply a must for a confident person. But if you focus too much on appearance, then everything ends with self-confidence. It’s very hard not to become an overconfident person when you don’t know how to be confident in yourself, and not as a person with high self-esteem.
Where does self-confidence come from in the unsure of themselves? After all, inwardly, they continue to feel that they are vulnerable? What is the cause? Everything is simple here. There is such a thing as learning through observation. This term comes from behavioral psychology. The person looks at others who are more confident than he is. And he absorbs all their patterns of behavior as templates. It turns out that he behaves more confidently. However, the notorious person lacks flexibility. He knows the models of self-confident people only at a point level. But life is full of exceptions. Therefore, a confident person needs to strive to be flexible.
