No one is born a master of communication, communication skills are formed in a person throughout his life. There is no need to envy those who catch emotional nuances from a half-word and easily guesses about their attitude towards themselves. How to stop being afraid of communication? It will be enough just to work on some skills.
Instructions
Step 1
First, train yourself to be initially positive about new people. That is to say, to give them an "advance" of a good attitude, even if in front of your eyes they did the wrong thing to someone else. You do not know the situation, maybe there was a negative background or there is simply a personal incompatibility. So as long as nothing wrong has been done to you, try to think positively of the person. You can feel it.
Step 2
Second, practice interacting with strangers. To do this, unobtrusively start a conversation “in the crowd”. For example, stand in front of a schedule, and, without specifically addressing anyone, speak your thoughts out loud, commenting on what you have written. Perhaps someone will respond and strike up a conversation, and you also need to be prepared to respond to similar remarks from others. Let it be conversations about the weather, but the fact that you were the first to enter into a conversation is already an achievement. You’re not giving a speech to the Nobel Committee, don’t take too much responsibility for success in such everyday conversations.
Step 3
Thirdly, you need to get used to answering “I don’t know” and “no” and not stop the conversation after that. Usually people who are afraid of communication make increased demands on themselves. Therefore, they believe that in each situation they should give the interlocutor as much information as possible, if the interlocutor has honored them with attention. This approach is fundamentally wrong. If you do not know something, do not be embarrassed, say that you cannot help with this. If you have entered into communication, do not miss the opportunity, ask the question yourself. It's good to compliment the other person in conversation. For example, someone who has looked up from the book to address you can be asked a question about the content of the book, saying that you accidentally spied on and now just burn out with curiosity. This is a hidden compliment and a clear interest in your partner.
Step 4
Don't let shyness become a barrier between you and loved ones. Sincere sympathy for people erases all boundaries of misunderstanding and helps to strengthen relationships.
