In the modern world, where cruelty, selfishness and the desire for personal gain reign, only a very few people can be trusted. It is especially difficult to show trust when a person has already faced betrayal many times, when even the most dear and close people let him down.
Instructions
Step 1
In order to trust people, you need to track down the reasons for this distrust. Perhaps your loved one let you down, or maybe it was not your friends who did not fulfill their promises, did not meet expectations. In any case, distrust should be directed at specific people, and not affect the entire circle of acquaintances. You can talk to those who let you down, explain to them the reasons for your distrust, tell how much it hurts you. And if people understand and try to correct themselves, they need to be understood and forgiven. After all, the matter may be just your misunderstanding, and not real betrayal or deception.
Step 2
If a person does not want to improve, it is best to part with him, leave his principles and judgments in the past, do not blame or be angry with him. Learning to forgive people, take their side, understand their thoughts and feelings towards you is the first step towards trust. Abstract yourself from past negative experiences and understand that even if you were deceived once, it does not mean that this will repeat itself every time with each new person.
Step 3
When you learn to see and appreciate the positive aspects of people, the good deeds they do, the mistrust in them will diminish. Maybe you just do not notice a good attitude towards yourself and are used to seeing the world in dark colors. But in fact, there are many more good people in him than bad ones. Try to see the kindness and disposition in your friends and acquaintances, and if this is not possible, meet new people. You still have no reason not to trust strangers, they have not done anything wrong to you, so communication with them can become more trusting to some extent.
Step 4
Do not indulge in negative feelings even in stressful situations, do not suspect all people, otherwise it will turn into paranoia. If your wife is late at work, it does not mean at all that she is cheating on you, and a friend who did not fulfill his promises may have good reasons for this.
Step 5
Do not be afraid to express your suspicions to your partner or friend, be honest with him in the expression of feelings. This will help clarify the relationship with the person, convince him to follow the agreements so as not to hurt you. Honesty and openness is not easy for many people, and yet it is much better than accumulating anger and resentment inside, each time fearing that this will result in a quarrel and a breakdown in relations.
Step 6
Sincerity is the basis of any friendship or partnership feeling, the beginning of any intimacy. Without sincerity, it is impossible to imagine trust in a person. Therefore, as soon as you begin to calmly convey your feelings to a person, he will answer you in kind. This is the birth of true trust.
