Communication problems in modern society are as diverse as the people who experience difficulties with it. To improve your communication, it is necessary, first of all, to understand the reasons that hinder the development of a person's sociability. According to psychologists, there are three main problems that need to be addressed.
Instructions
Step 1
The most common reason people may be uncommunicative is the fear of opening up. The protective psychological reactions that underlie this social phobia do not allow a person to express himself, to show his feelings and emotions, to specifically express his attitude to something or someone. Subconscious fear, which is often reflexive, is not fully realized by the person experiencing it. It is interpreted as shyness and shyness. Some people say that a person has "such a character", but it's not that simple. Social phobia is a disorder that can nevertheless be successfully overcome with a variety of personal growth trainings.
Step 2
Sometimes a person simply does not understand the motives of the interlocutor's unusual behavior. Why is he muttering something under his breath, instead of clearly expressing his thoughts out loud? Maybe he is afraid of something or is he simply impolite? Internal contradictions can play a rude joke with you, which can be misinterpreted by others. Based on first impressions, physical appearance and manner of speech, it is very easy to label a person as “strange” or “insecure”. Remember this proverb: "They are greeted by their clothes, but they are escorted by their minds." In this case, it reflects the essence of the problem as clearly as possible. Having glued a label to a person, it is quite difficult then to understand the motives of his actions and accept what he really is. In this case, behavioral psychotherapy works great (experts also call it cognitive-behavioral therapy).
Step 3
The last obstacle preventing a person from improving their communication is fatigue or unwillingness to communicate. In most cases, this is a clear symptom of neurasthenia. Such a state of a person can be facilitated by: intense and long work, requiring not only physical, but also moral efforts; or some psychological problem that oppresses and oppresses a person from the inside. All this leads to a state of irritable weakness, as a result of which communication suffers. If the main reason for the onset of neurasthenia is hard work, then rest is important. Be sure to take a break, take a vacation at your own expense, buy a ticket to a sanatorium for 2-3 weeks, not less, as this requires a long rest. Please note that 2-3 days will not solve the problem, but will only aggravate the situation. If the main cause of neurasthenia is the factor of internal psychological conflict, then it is recommended to undergo a course of psychotherapy with an experienced psychotherapist.
