The question of whether it is worth giving a person a second chance arises only when he has used up the first one. It is on how the disappointment in the person occurred or how your relationship ended, and it depends on whether it is right to give another chance. Nevertheless, the human heart does not always listen to the voice of reason, and sometimes people who do not even deserve the first chance get both the second and tenth.
Why give a second chance
There can be many reasons why a person missed his first chance. Someone will be disappointed by one-time minor offenses, which have accumulated so much that patience simply burst. Someone will come to shock from the lies of a loved one, from an undeserved resentment. In the worst case, betrayal could also occur. But if a person asks to give him another chance, moreover, his words are very sincere, then you need to think deeply.
The reason for the discord can be an accumulated misunderstanding based on a number of accidents and minor skirmishes. A crisis has occurred, but you understand that if you treat each other more carefully, this can be avoided. Relationships are also about self-improvement. If this understanding came to both partners, then such a couple definitely deserves a second chance.
Some people can behave selfishly until a shock situation occurs. For example, your partner was frivolous, allowed himself to stay up late without warning you, he could ignore your requests. But when you confronted him with the fact that you do not intend to endure such neglect anymore, he suddenly realized how wrong he was. Such insights do happen. In this case, the person deserves a second chance.
Why you shouldn't give a second chance
It happens that a person's misbehavior was in your hands: you have long been tired of these relationships and thought how to break them as gently as possible. Of course, the situation could have turned out far from mild, but if you are sure that you do not want to maintain the old relationship, then do not agree to give a second chance. A person's arguments can be very different, ranging from the fact that it all happened by accident to bringing a list of what connects you (long relationship, children, joint business, housing, etc.), but stand your ground. Even if he insists that your common child needs both parents, this is not a reason to stay in a relationship just for this reason.
You should not give a second chance to someone who has serious psychological problems and does not intend to solve them. For example, if your partner is a chronic alcoholic or drug addict, if he raised his hand at you or the child several times, constantly tried to humiliate you, or he already had several cheating, then he does not deserve the next chance. The very fact that the problem is chronic suggests that you have already given him a second chance, and he did not cope. The sooner you stop it, the better for you and for him.
It happens that a person really made a mistake. You are very hurt by what is happening, but he too, most likely, is not better. He is tormented by a sense of guilt. If you understand that remorse is genuine and your partner is never going to do anything like this again, then it might be worth giving a second chance. But focus on your feelings. Think about whether you can forgive him. It happens that feelings remain the same, but with forgiveness is already more difficult. On the one hand, the ability to forgive is a great blessing, but on the other hand, some events are really unforgivable.
What is the bottom line
Probably, a second chance, rather deserves than not, any person for whom you have genuine feelings. But any person, rather, does not deserve the third, despite your feelings.
