The support of a loved one or just an acquaintance, of course, in certain situations is extremely important and necessary for everyone. Encouragement with the right word, give practical advice, reason together - sometimes this is all that is required of you in difficult times. And sometimes these very tips are impossible to listen to, or they are just annoying. So how do you know when and how to give people your invaluable advice?
Instructions
Step 1
Listen to your interlocutor to the end. Learn to hear, not just listen. Try to understand the essence of the problem, if any. But this does not mean at all that you should sit and silently, without interrupting your friend or acquaintance, absorb other people's information. Asking questions - this will help, firstly, the person speak out, and, secondly, you better understand what, in fact, is the root of evil, and why your interlocutor turned to you for help or advice.
Step 2
After you have more or less clear picture of everything that is happening, try to find out what your friend wants, and how he thinks to solve this or that problem. At the same time, understand whether he needs your advice at all or a point of view on the current situation. Many people often talk about their problems or troubles, not in order to get advice, but in order to speak up. After that, it becomes easier for them. Although, at first glance, everything looks as if the person sincerely needs your help. In fact, he just needs your ears. There is nothing wrong with that, because this is what friends are for. Only if you already see that the person has firmly decided what to do and how to resolve the situation, then you should not go to him with your advice. Of course, no one doubts their correctness, but better save them for another occasion.
Step 3
If you see that a person really needs your support, and he needs your advice, or he really wants to know your opinion, then do not deny him this. Speak the truth, do not hesitate to say out loud what you are thinking. Be honest, and this is what your friend will truly appreciate. Indeed, without an objective opinion and a view from the outside, it can be very difficult to make the right decision.
