Self-centeredness lies at the heart of the hysterical character. This desire to do something did not attract attention. Meeting such a person on the street or in transport, you can simply ignore him. But communicating with a hysterical leader (especially if the boss is a woman) brings a lot of problems. To get rid of them, you need to adhere to several principles.
Instructions
Step 1
If your boss is a hysterical person, and you are dependent on him, it is important to adjust yourself in such a way that you do not feel like an unhappy person who is not able to change anything in your life. Tell yourself firmly that you yourself have made the decision to remain under the leadership of a tyrant and hysterical for a certain period of time. After that, you will no longer feel like a passive victim, but an adult who makes decisions and controls his own life.
Step 2
In dealing with a hysterical person, one cannot do without flattery, overt or veiled. Tantrums gladly accept compliments about their appearance and clothing. It is necessary to carefully look at what his merits such a person exposes and make them the object of flattering statements. For example, a scientific article by the boss, which is supposedly so interesting and causes such an abundance of thoughts that after reading it, insomnia occurs before bedtime.
Step 3
If you make your request to such a person, do it in his coordinate system, i.e. so that your petition is in the manager's rational interests. For example, taking a few days off at your own expense to get your thoughts in order to get ready to start a new project. And do not believe the loud promises of the hysterical boss, most often he does not keep them. And if you express your displeasure with this circumstance, you will be accused of the same.
Step 4
Reasoning about people in hysterics is subjective and often diametrically opposed. In the morning you may be greeted at your workplace with a smile, and by lunchtime you will hear many unpleasant things for yourself. And after an hour, your boss can invite you for a cup of coffee. Such changes should not scare you, it is normal for hysterics. Try not to get upset over trifles and ignore such mood swings in your boss.
Step 5
Tantrums do not tolerate stinging remarks about themselves and about people close to them. Even if the boss speaks critically about any of his relatives, do not stand on the same level with him and do not join the criticism, you will not be forgiven.
Step 6
In the process of communicating with the hysterical boss, use the Socratic dialogue method. Do not respond to caustic remarks in the same way; translate emotional nonsense into rational conversation. Do not provoke emotional reactions, with all your appearance, let us understand your interest only in the practical aspects of the conversation. If you are consistent and know how to reasonably conduct a dialogue, the hysterical boss will not be able to suppress you with his emotional pressure, in which he has no equal. He can only be defeated in a logical argument.
