Periodically experiencing negative emotions and reacting to irritation is natural. Anger, fear, resentment - keeping such things in oneself is not only difficult, but also harmful. However, it is one thing to talk about your feelings, and quite another to have tantrums with smashing dishes. If you are prone to such destructive behavior, try to overcome yourself.
Look for a reason
You get angry and hysterical every time for different reasons. The day before yesterday it was a broken heel, yesterday my son got a deuce at school, today a friend forgot to wish you a happy birthday. There is nothing in common between these events, but you should still consider if there is something that constantly makes you feel unhappy. Perhaps the reason for your regular tantrums is your boss, who will not miss the opportunity to point out mistakes to you, and with whom you dare not argue. Or, all your life, an authoritarian mom has been pressing you, obsessively telling you which company to send your resume to, which man to choose, and what to buy as a gift for your cousin. You may not be aware of the causes of constant stress, but it will affect you. It is worth trying to find it - by yourself or with the help of a psychologist.
Pause
A trifling quarrel with her husband strives to turn into a serious quarrel, and you understand that one more inadvertently dropped word, and you will explode. Learn to catch your boiling point, tell your loved ones about it and make it a habit to interrupt the conversation at this time. You started by expressing your dissatisfaction with the cup thrown by your spouse on the table, but the conversation turned to the fact that your apartment is always dirty, and you feel that now you will launch this cup - the culprit of the quarrel - right into the head of your beloved man ? Take a break and go to different rooms. Air your head - take your dog for a walk, take a shower, call a friend. After the desire to destroy everything around has subsided, invite your husband to return to the interrupted conversation and try to conduct it not in a raised voice.
Everyone to the garden
Ask loved ones to help you cope with tantrums. Agree that as soon as you start crying or screaming, they will immediately leave the room. Usually a healthy person for a prolonged tantrum requires viewers who will be angry in response, console or argue. In loneliness, most hysterics gradually calm down, since there is simply no one to watch their performance. This simple technique often works on children and will probably help you too. If you are prone to prolonged tantrums even alone, while you have not had any traumatic events in the recent past (death of a loved one, parting with a loved one), you should think about seeing a doctor.
