Controlling your emotions is sometimes very difficult. But in order to look worthy in the eyes of the people around you, you need to work on yourself and learn to restrain anger and irritability. Anger destroys relationships. Words spoken in anger leave an unpleasant mark, and decisions made in such a state often turn out to be wrong.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to figure out the reasons behind your anger. Is a certain person or some sensitive topic a provocateur? Or are you angry at any comment addressed to you? If someone annoys you, keep your communication to a minimum, and if you meet by chance, force yourself to smile and greet politely. If you can't stand a certain topic of conversation, then avoid it, or try to be passive in the discussion. If outbursts of anger appear at any comment addressed to you, then work on your personal worldview and the ability to accept criticism is necessary.
Step 2
Imagine how you look from the outside during a flash of anger, and how the interlocutor perceives you. If possible, walk up to the mirror in an irritated state, and appreciate the look of a person who is unable to control himself.
Step 3
Try to calm down before responding rudely or yelling at the other person. Take a few deep breaths. Count to ten and formulate the correct answer in your head.
Step 4
If you find that you cannot contain your anger, go to another room or outside. Do a few physical exercises to help your body feel free. If anger takes hold of you in the workplace, take unwanted paper and tear it into small pieces. Try to switch to an activity.
Step 5
Try to look at the situation from the outside, whether the problem is worth the cost of emotions. Is it possible to find the right solution? Do you have enough arguments to defend your opinion? If you are not sure if you are right or do not know how to prove your words, step back from the conversation.
Step 6
Do not start a showdown or unpleasant conversations when you are tired. Otherwise, even an insignificant trifle can cause a storm of emotions in you and provoke anger. Choose the right time when you can adequately assess the situation and are able to control your emotions.
