If you set yourself the goal of learning how to control emotions, then you must understand that the path will be very long and extremely difficult. There are some tips to help you deal with negative feelings.
How to control emotions and anger
Have you noticed that some people are more prone to anger and irritation than others. This is primarily due to temperament. If you want to quickly deal with negative emotions, there are several express methods:
- if possible, then provide yourself with physical activity, let it be several push-ups or pull-ups;
- before splashing out emotions, try to imagine all the consequences and navigate the situation.
Emotion control practice
What do psychologists recommend? If you have a sufficiently developed imagination, try to imagine specific actions - does a work colleague infuriate and want to throw a vase at him? Throw it, but in the imagination. You can become a real director of your own film and at the same time do no harm to anyone.
An imaginary wall will help to cope with irritation, which will isolate you from the source of irritation. By the way, this can be not only a wall - a dome, a hole, a hollow. The main thing is that you feel comfortable and cozy.
You can draw a real picture with a pencil or a pen. It doesn't matter at all that you don't know how to draw - it's just a way to deal with negativity.
Train yourself to think that the person who causes you negative emotions is a kind of simulator on which you will practice controlling your emotions and anger. When you communicate with him, mentally answer three questions: "What are the true reasons for your behavior?", "What remarks of the interlocutor annoy you?", "What will you do if the situation repeats itself?"
The true reasons for your behavior cannot be hidden in the behavior of another person - this is your attitude towards him. You still cannot change another person, but your attitude towards him is easy. In any unpleasant situation, look at things through the eyes of your opponent - this will help you understand the true reasons for the behavior of the "source of irritation."
If none of these methods work, just minimize contact with the source of irritation, eliminate irritating factors and remember - nerve cells do not regenerate. Take care of yourself and your loved ones.
