Human relationships are kind of a mystery. But there is also a relationship with oneself. In my opinion, this is an even more incomprehensible mystery. It has been repeatedly noted that the better a person is “friends” with himself, the better he does everything. But it turns out that loving yourself is not so easy. Only 20% of modern people succeed. So how can you still love yourself for who you are?
Instructions
Step 1
In the world around us there is an illusion that we live with other people. In fact, everything is not what it seems. Each person lives with himself: "I was born", "I got married" and so on. Our whole life and all existing environment depends on how we treat ourselves. If something does not suit you, then you can easily escape from it, but if you try to escape from yourself, you get a kind of chaos, which further leads to serious problems and complications. And so that these problems do not exist, you need to learn how to build a comfortable relationship with yourself, as you do with other people. The first step is to realize that you will have to live with yourself the way you are for the rest of your life.
Step 2
Now you have to get rid of the "bad" past. After all, it is precisely this in many cases that is the cause of low self-esteem and self-loathing. It is often the fault of the parents who criticized their child throughout childhood. Remember, parents, that all childhood traumas remain with the child for the rest of his life. Don't spoil the future of your children.
So, in order to get rid of the remnants of the past, which gnaws at you to this day, you need to use some kind of training that many psychologists use. Remember all the bad things that happened in your life and put them in a basket, which you can mercilessly throw out of your head in the future. If it is difficult for you to do this exercise orally, then write everything down on paper, mentally release it, burn it and throw it away. Remember that self-criticism is normal, but do not forget about your merits, which are probably many.
Step 3
A rare woman is 100% satisfied with herself. One nose doesn't like it, the other goes crazy because of a pimple on his face. Each one finds at least some flaw in her appearance. And this is not good. Basically, this problem comes from the patterns of beauty that fashion, television, all kinds of magazines have imposed on us. You can correct external flaws, but absolutely nothing will change in your head. And this means that the problem will continue to live with us, even if outwardly everything will be very good. Stop being irresponsible to yourself! This will help you build a comfortable relationship with yourself.
Step 4
Insecure people blame all their problems on what they are not comfortable with. That is, if it were not for their flaws, then everything in their life would be good and wonderful. And they do all this instead of taking and fixing, for example, their figure. This is better than supposedly suffering that something is wrong. You have to take it and do it. To look deep into the problem, not float to the surface.
Let's try to better imagine that all your problems have disappeared and you have turned into the one whom you dreamed for so long. What will change? Nothing. This is how you can understand that everything that you invented is just an invention and nothing more. After all, your flaws do not in the least interfere with doing what you want and living the way you want.
You can also try one exercise. While standing in front of the mirror, say compliments to the part of your body that does not suit you. And over time, you will feel a clear change. And you will notice that people began to treat you differently. But it's not all because the flaw is gone. Not. He stayed where he was, but only you stopped noticing him and fell in love with yourself the person you are. You have become more self-sufficient.
Step 5
Don't get hung up on beauty standards. Love your appearance for what it is. Imagine your body type is the most popular. Make your own reference. Appearance will, one might say, work for you itself only when you understand how unique you are and not like others. You live in your own world, which is made by you. Whatever you want, so be it. Love yourself, and then people will be drawn to you! Good luck!
