Each of us has a wonderful ability - this is the ability to communicate. Each of us knows people who can talk a lot. But talking a lot is not enough for success, it is important to know some simple rules that contribute to successful communication.
How to communicate effectively and successfully?
Try to be open and kind
You need to not only receive communication, but also start it. Stay open, meet new people first, and let them do the same.
Know how to listen
For many, this is a very difficult task. It is difficult for people to listen because they are focused on their thoughts and problems. Even if you were laconic during the conversation, but showed a sincere interest in the interlocutor, it will be felt and they will say about you that you are a good interlocutor. If you are not interested in others, then you will have problems, both in communication and in relationships with other people.
Make sure that your interlocutor understands that his thought has been heard
Don't interrupt the person. Show genuine interest, respect, and concern for the other person. Also use confirmation techniques. Here are some examples of confirmation that you can say to a person: “Thank you!”, “Great!”, “Thank you for saying!”, “How interesting!”, “Of course!”. These words help the other person understand what you really heard and noted him, what he did, what he looks like. In other words, it helps him to feel that he has been heard.
Respect the interlocutor and his opinion
If someone told you their opinion, do not argue with him, even if you have a different point of view. The other person does not need to have the same taste and the same point of view. Don't argue, be tolerant. It is better to find something in common in your views.
Ask, offer your idea
It happens that a person does not want to ask a question because he is afraid of being rejected. But you can put the question in such a way that your interlocutor agrees with your ideas. By asking a question, you give the person the opportunity to choose how to answer you - yes or no. Think of the other person as your best friend and it will be easy for you to communicate. It is more pleasant and easier to communicate in a friendly environment than in a conflict situation. Ask questions with a positive attitude. Do not say: “You probably don’t want to dance with me?”, “Did I bother you?”, “I must have bothered you with my requests?”. Instead, make an offer: "Let's go dance!", "I have news for you!"
Use fewer difficult words in communication
Use easy-to-understand words. Use words in your conversation that your interlocutor will understand. Remember that in speech, as in writing, there are punctuation marks. Make periods, commas in your speech and remember that you are speaking not for yourself, but for the interlocutor. If you speak very quickly and confusedly, then your interlocutor will not understand and, as a result, will lose interest in the conversation. Emphasize words that you want to emphasize and that you think are important. Feel free to express your emotions that match what you say. If you want your speech to be remembered, tell life stories or give examples.
How to tell a story so that it is interesting and memorable. Expand the following in the story:
- 1. When was it?
- 2. Where was it, in what place?
- 3. What was and how was it?
- 4. Exodus. Result.
