Marriage in modern society is a rather fragile thing. Today, a real avalanche of difficulties falls on young families: differences in character, upbringing, different attitudes towards spending money, financial difficulties due to the global crisis, and much more. But above all, you can add a problem with the parents of one spouse. No wonder the people have some of their favorite anecdotes about mother-in-law or mother-in-law.
To begin with, spouses need to understand that they have created their own, their own unit of society, which consists of a husband, wife and children. Now this is a new family, with its own principles and rules. One American family psychologist writes in his book that the main task in marriage is to get us. He adds that rapprochement with his beloved, beloved, usually leads to distance in relations with relatives.
But as you know, not all parents can easily get used to the fact that their child now does not belong and obey them. Single parents are more sensitive to parting with their child.
It happens very often that wives ask their husbands to treat her mother a little better, although it may not be so easy to get along with her mother. In this case, it is important for the husband to understand how he treats his wife, and not how he treats her mother. In this case, it may be easier for him to make some unprincipled concessions.
It happens that the heads of the family are not the husbands, but one of the spouse's parents. In this case, the husband should urgently reconsider his authority, and respectfully talk with his parents. Of course, it is important that the husband learns to be the head, can earn money, and solve family problems himself. It is also important for both husband and wife not to tell their parents about their family problems or any shortcomings of their spouse. After all, you may tell and forget, but parents may never have such grievances for their children.
What kind of spouse's parents would not be, it is important to remember that it was they who raised and educated your spouse, so you can try to find positive qualities in them and appreciate them, for the good that they have. Then, perhaps, you can make good and true friends!
